wedding and outfit changes

tamzz

ive been invited to a family friends wedding soon and have a question regarding clothes..i havent been to a wedding since i was a child so probably 15 years ago and have no clue!!

i have been asked to take photographs at it so im planning on wearing flats for most of the day (until i finish taking photos at 5/6pm)

i was wondering if it would be acceptable to change outfits, say after the meal or early enough in the evening? does anyone do this or do people generally stay in their same outfits for the whole event?

i like the dress i have picked out for the wedding, but im very short and insecure about my height without heels. i also feel my legs look stumpy in falts and i know people will be going around taking photos and i wont feel very confident in my flats..i know that sounds silly but its how i am. i know i could just change my shoes in the evening but i dont have any heels that match my dress so would be easier to just change outfits.

if it matters its a fairly small wedding, less than 100 guests.

ElleEm

I have never seen a guest change outfits at a wedding. TBH, If I was you, I would be concerned that people would say you're trying to upstage the bride by changing your clothes.

tamzz

ElleEm wrote: »

I have never seen a guest change outfits at a wedding. TBH, If I was you, I would be concerned that people would say you're trying to upstage the bride by changing your clothes.

Yeah I was worried about that! I really only wanted to change for the last part of the night (which I think will be drinks in a pub) but dont want anyone to get the wrong idea either. would love to buy comfy heels that go with my dress but cant afford them guess ill have to do with flats

Toto Wolfcastle

Apparently my mother in law did it at her son's wedding. No one remembers it apart from the bride and groom.

tamzz

Bobblehead Panda wrote: »

Apparently my mother in law did it at her son's wedding. No one remembers it apart from the bride and groom.

the woman thats getting married seems very laid back about the whole wedding, but at the same time i dont want to offend her. i just didnt know if it was common for people to change because i havent been to wedding in ages (i could always throw a drink on myself then id have a good excuse :cool:)

my legs are short and look awful with flats, i just know its best to wear them when im running around taking pics all day. would love to change into heels at night but dont have any that really go with my dress...i think itd look worse/attention seeking if i just changed my shoes anyway?

Toto Wolfcastle

I think people will understand that you've been doing a job all day and want to change.

whiteandlight

One of my bridesmaids changed clothes at about 1130 at my wedding before
Xmas! I didnt mind at all :)if your worried then maybe explain to the bride beforehand re the photos/flats?

2xj3hplqgsbkym

I think you should definitely change outfits. If the bride wants you to take photos people will think that you are just a crazy guest up at the alter all the time or following the bride and groom. I think you should wear a 'photographers outfit' for the beginning e.g. black/white shirt and black trosers.
This way people are more likely to let you get good shots and will keep out of your way more and also you would be more comfortable.

Then change into your wedding outfit when you are done.

There is nothing attention seeking or wrong about that at all.

Caraville

I have to say I'd have no problem with any of my guests changing if they really wanted to. In general it's at worst a bit odd, but then some people just don't like being in the same clothes all day. As for the bride feeling she's being upstaged... well I dunno, I don't want to come across as harsh but a bride that would feel that way needs to get over herself! A change of clothes (assuming the guest isn't changing into a wedding dress!) is hardly that big a deal.

Your situation is totally different though anyway- you are, for all intents and purposes, working for the duration of the ceremony and so you should wear whatever you feel comfortable in- you won't be able to do your job properly otherwise, and let's face it, the couple will want the job done right. When you're ready to slip into your glad rags then do, and don't worry what anyone thinks!