Getting back with one's ex

eth0

Every now and then I'd hear about people who are after leaving a fierce troublesome relationship and then a few months/weeks later they tell you they're after getting back together

Usually they're the same ones who when they tell you they're after breaking up you'd say to them 'jaysus I'm glad that f*cker is gone, he/she/it was doing you no good!' and so when they say they're going back you'd almost feel the agony of the bitter struggle they have ahead of them that will only end in tears.

Why do these people bother going back? just too little willpower to get over the intial stage of missing each other? and does it ever work out for them?

Bipolar Joe

Some people hate loneliness and change. Also they are stupid.

starlit

It is the worst thing you could do!

LETHAL LADY

I am sociopath never happens to me.;)

Collie D

I work with a guy who had a kid with his ex and for all the time I knew him he referred to her as "that C-word". I didn't know her real name for about two years. He then announced after a couple of years he was getting back with her

Although they're living together now with another kid and he seems happy so maybe no harm in it even though I told him at the time I didn't think it was wise.

hondasam

Sometimes You don't know what you have until it's gone and if you are given a second chance you will take it.

leggo

Thinking they can get a better looking ride.

Can't.

****'s no good.

"I've missed yoouuuuuu!"

bodhrandude

Maybe they just liked the sex part.

Sindri

They think this time they will be successful in this enterprise of love. Some people, once tasted the golden sweet feeling of love and affection towards someone, wish very much for it to work, and that is why they go back.

ilovesleep

I'd love to hear/read some stories of god damn awful breaking up just for them to get back together again at some stage. If anybody has any please...

george1982

Bipolar Joe wrote: »

Some people hate loneliness and change. Also they are stupid.

Not necessarily the "stupid" part - but the first two statements are too true (sadly). Couldn´t agree more...

Bipolar Joe

george1982 wrote: »

Not necessarily the "stupid" part - but the first two statements are too true (sadly). Couldn´t agree more...

It's generally stupidity. You don't break up because things are going really well.

holystungun9

It's the digging them back up that really puts me off the idea.

Katgurl

My friends broke up for two years in their mid twenties, they are now very happily married 8 years later.

mcmacness

Myself and my boyfriend years back broke up after a year and four months. We broke up for three months and then got back together for 9. In my opinion its not the same the second time, the person that was broken up with feels a tad betrayed I think and I was never fully comfortable around him then, knowing how easily he could do it again. Although I do think that sometimes breaking up is for the best, you may love someone and want to be with them but if your happiness doesn't matter to them as much as their own, there's no point. And sometimes a bit of time doesn't change a selfish person.

stupidusername

love n shizzle, yo

Gummy Panda

Sometimes people break up for the wrong reasons or one was ready to be in a relationship.

Sometimes is they like riding the ex..

Meow_Meow

Currently contemplating it. Sometimes when you're lonely and depressed and horny, all you want is something/one familiar. Someone who already knows you and understands you and actually gets your situation (because hey ho, they were part of it!) Also, over time you forget why you broke up with them in the first place, and begin to foster hopes that they've changed.




*sigh*

geeky

A few years back, my sister dumped her boyfriend, for a couple of reasons - he wasn't a sh1thead, just didn't seem that mature or committed.

We were kinda glad as she seemed to really blossom. At one point, I remember telling her he wasn't good enough for her, and I know some people went far further.

They're married now.

I'm happy for her and he's also gotten his act together in a big way. Still sooooo awkward.