How do you talk to someone you haven't spoke to in months?

RobitTV

Basically i have a friend who goes to the same school as me aswell, for some reason we haven't spoken to each other in months, its very awkward.

I See him and just walk past and try not to see him

It's got annoying now at this point and i really want to do something about it, and try and talk.

I have a chat thing with my friends on it, and he is online alot now. But we never talk on that either.

I Want to talk to him on the chat and at school, i just think its very awkward.

I Don't really like him much as i used to, but i want to maintain communication with each other atleast. I Don't have many friends to be honest.

As i speak hes on the chat, but im not confident enough to say anything.

Can somebody please help me and tell me what do i do.

woodchuck

Is there a particular reason that you two haven't been talking? If it's just that you've grown apart a bit, the next time you see him just say something along the lines of 'Hi, haven't talk in a while, what's new with you?'. Or you could do it online if that's easier for you.

If you had a fight or something though that might not be the best... might need some more details here to give proper advice! I don't understand why you 'try not to see him' when you walk him...

RobitTV

woodchuck wrote: »

Is there a particular reason that you two haven't been talking? If it's just that you've grown apart a bit, the next time you see him just say something along the lines of 'Hi, haven't talk in a while, what's new with you?'. Or you could do it online if that's easier for you.

If you had a fight or something though that might not be the best... might need some more details here to give proper advice! I don't understand why you 'try not to see him' when you walk him...

We've brown apart really, it's just when you dont talk to him for a while, he makes it awkward and not talk to you.

So to be honest i just got fed up with him and left it how it is.

But now i just Fix things again, i find it really annoying not talking to him at all.

I need the confidence to just fix up our relations again.

We don't have to be friends again, i just want to be on talking terms with him.

woodchuck

So you don't really want to be friends with him, just not awkward when you do see each other?

When you see him around, say hi! He'll say hi back... and then judge from there whether that's enough or if you should stop and chat (if he slows his walking and/or maintains eye contact)

I wouldn't do much more than that atm, doesn't sound like either of you are too keen to keep up the friendship

RobitTV

woodchuck wrote: »

So you don't really want to be friends with him, just not awkward when you do see each other?

When you see him around, say hi! He'll say hi back... and then judge from there whether that's enough or if you should stop and chat (if he slows his walking and/or maintains eye contact)

I wouldn't do much more than that atm, doesn't sound like either of you are too keen to keep up the friendship

Yeah, to be honest i two different sides on this - one being, yes you should try and talk to him - the other is saying No, dont bother.

Im just unsure to try and make friends again or atleast be on talking terms.

It just annoys me not having a proper friends anymore, and seeing him online knowing he is having a good time with his friends is overall upsetting for me.

That's why im trying to create friends again with the friend/friends i used to have.

But once again im unsure should i even bother going about this "task" of mine.

woodchuck

RobitTV wrote: »

seeing him online knowing he is having a good time with his friends is overall upsetting for me.

He could very well be thinking the same thing about you when he sees you online! You shouldn't let something minor like that get to you. If it's really bothering you you should try and change your settings so that you can't see him online or visa versa.

The thing about pretending not to see him when he's walking by sounds kind of childish to be honest Even if you don't want to maintain a friendship with him there's no harm in being civil and just saying hi or making small talk once in a while. It shouldn't be seen as a task, just a common courtesy. I'd do this regardless of whether or not you want to be friends with him again.

RobitTV

woodchuck wrote: »

He could very well be thinking the same thing about you when he sees you online! You shouldn't let something minor like that get to you. If it's really bothering you you should try and change your settings so that you can't see him online or visa versa.

The thing about pretending not to see him when he's walking by sounds kind of childish to be honest Even if you don't want to maintain a friendship with him there's no harm in being civil and just saying hi or making small talk once in a while. It shouldn't be seen as a task, just a common courtesy. I'd do this regardless of whether or not you want to be friends with him again.

Yes i agree, its very childish. Iv'e tried with him to be honest and he just point blank sometimes just refuses to notice im there next to him.

He maybe thinking the same about me yeah, i might give it a go.