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  • 19-02-2012 1:16pm
    #1
    den87
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 531 ✭✭✭


    Just looking for a bit of advice/want to get this off my chest.

    Has anyone had to work with their ex after a kinda long term relationship ends?

    Here's the story, im male,24 and me and my ex work together, not in the same department but in close proximity sometimes.

    We broke up in August last year after 4 and a half years because she "didn't want to be in a relationship" and wanted "some time on her own". We never really had problems and had a great relationship up until a few weeks before breakup.

    We remained friends for a bit but it became too difficult for me so we just leave to a talk when we have to kind of thing. Problem is, I cant stop thinking about her, she's in my head most of the day every day and seeing her doesn't help.

    She's seeing someone new now, and i saw the two of them talking the other day, it didn't crush me, but it was uncomfortable to see also.

    I think the hardest part is, that she "wanted to be on her own" yet is now seeing someone new. Is that a reflection on me?

    Does anyone have any advice/experience to get past this??
    How do I get her out of my head?

    Thanks in advance.


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  • #2
    Virgil°
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,466 ✭✭✭Virgil°


    Congrats first of all, you seem to be doing quite well under the circumstances.

    Secondly "wanted to be on her own", "didn't want to be in a relationship", "some time on her own".

    These are cliche end of relationship lies. They translate roughly to: I don't want a relationship with you any more but if someone else comes along that does it for me then maybe.

    It's no real reflection on you, this happens everyday and has happened to just about everyone who has been in a relationship. Its happened to me several times. For whatever reason the relationship in her eyes went sour.

    Last thing is thinking about her all the time is normal, completely. Especially in your circumstances. I don't know what prospects are out there in your line of work but in your shoes I'd be considering another work environment.Is this a possibility? Maybe I'm alone here but I don't think I could handle seeing an ex of 4 years everyday flaunting a new hubby. Chin up, you're doing better than most and it will get better eventually.


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