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No Way Out

  • 17-02-2012 4:04pm
    #1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2


    I feel like i'm stuck and don't know what to do. I've been with my partner almost 8 years and we've been living together the last 4. He is the breadwinner of the household and I stay at home with the kids. Our baby is only 1 and I have two other children from a previous relationship.

    Right now our relationship has gone to nothing. We barely speak half the time and when we do it's more like we are brother and sister. We have tried to get out of this rut several times but it always ends up back the same way. We both know the relationship has come to an end but I feel like i'm stuck here. I've no income whatsoever so I have no way to rent a place of my own. He knows this too and I feel he uses this as an excuse to treat me like crap as i've nowhere to go.

    Has anyone any advice on what I can do? I just want out of here and i've nowhere to turn. We rent at the moment so even if he moved out (which he won't) I can't afford to pay the rent on my own. It's like a vicious circle and i'm trapped.

    Thanks for reading.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 678 ✭✭✭ihsb


    The only thing I can suggest is to go to citizens advice and the social welfare and maybe your local city council. Ask them all off the record what help and support would be there for you if you would leave.

    I would imagine that there will be help out there because no one should live in a situation that they are miserable in. Stay strong and don't let him treat you badly! You are worth more!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2 kb99


    Thank you. I will go to Citizens advice on Monday. I really have to stop burying my head in the sand and sort this out.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,484 ✭✭✭username123


    There is always a way out.

    Definitely go to Social Welfare and Citizens Advice. I think you will have to actually move out to avail of whatever entitlements you will get, but they will be able to tell you more about that.

    Do you have any friends or family that you could go to with the children for a temporary stay while things are being sorted out? Or do you have any money saved that you could use to rent somewhere for a month or so while things are being sorted?

    Does your partner know that you want to break up? He might be relieved at the idea of a break up too, have you talked to him? He might be willing to help get you and the kids settled somewhere?

    In the longer term then you will need to look at supporting yourself and the kids, but thats to be sorted after you get your current living arrangements under control.

    You could also speak to your local womens refuge or shelter, they would be used to advising women who have no source of income but need to leave.

    Good luck.


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