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  • 17-02-2012 3:35am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    There is a friend of mine (was a friend of mine for years), but we began having feeling for each other and she was my first 'proper relationship' I really care about her,we had sex.. I lost my virginity to her. I know she cared for me because 1. she had sex with me and 2. she had told me on many occasions and i just felt that she really did care for me.

    Anyway we broke up (long story). I didnt contact her for months and months and just today I met up with her, however she now tells me that she is seeing several blokes and I just hate the thoughs of her doing this.. She told me she has not had sex with any of them, 'just having fun'.hearing that killed me inside.
    As i was speaking to her I couldnt help thinking how great we are together. we had a good few laughs, we get on real well, she told me things she wouldnt tell anyone else and she even told me she would like to see me a lot more. I know that she still cares for me.. she just doesnt want a relationship with me which is somthing that I just cant understand. I mean tonight I just knew she wanted to get closer to me...

    I have been thinkin of just cuttin he out of my life and forgetting bout her? should i tell her how i feel..


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  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    wonderinghow wrote: »
    I have been thinkin of just cuttin he out of my life and forgetting bout her? should i tell her how i feel..

    Life is too short to be wasting time wondering what if OP.
    Get it all off your chest and let the cards fall where they may.
    If it doesn't work out, move on, safe in the knowledge you did all you could and it was not to be.
    No regrets.
    Good luck.


  • #3
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    It seems to me that she's only interested in playing the field for now.

    It looks like there was an attraction when you spoke to her last night, but for her I think it would have been purely for the sex. I would refrain from getting involved there because you have feelings for her, and when she moves on again this will only further upset you.

    Tell her how you feel, for what it's worth, but im not getting a good vibe from this at all. She's enjoying her sexual freedom by the sounds of it.


  • #4
    holyhead
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,249 ✭✭✭holyhead


    OP I'd leave well enough alone. You cant live her life for her no matter how honourable your intentions are. She has moved on and for the sake of your own life and life is short you should do so yourself. Best of luck :)


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Abi wrote: »
    It seems to me that she's only interested in playing the field for now.

    It looks like there was an attraction when you spoke to her last night, but for her I think it would have been purely for the sex. QUOTE]

    I read this and it actually makes a lot of sense.. I reckon she knows i have feeling for her and thats why she doesnt wanna get involved with me sexually..


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