F-buddy and valentines day

LegacyUser

Been seeing a girl for about 5 months in a friends with benefits/f*ckbuddy situation. I like her, she's cool, but I don't want a relationship. And neither does she. We've spoken about it and it's agreed that we're no strings attached and all has been good.

Dunno what to do about feckin valentines day though. Dont wanna get her something and have her think I like her more than I do. Also don't want to look like a d*ck/hurt her feelings if I just ignore it.

A cheeky text on the day would be ok wouldn't it? I don't think she'd read too much into it. Don't wana give her the wrong impression though.

gypsy_rose

I think you're better off just ignoring the whole thing to be honest, it's only one day so I'm presuming since you're just **** buddys you don't talk daily, everyone will have forgotten it by Wednesday.

Depends on how good friends you are.

If you're not close outside of sex, leave it alone completely.
If you're friends, send her a quick text. Either way it shouldn't be made out to mean anything.

Louise Jordan

Surely acknowledging Valentines Day defeats the entire purpose of being "F*ck Buddies".

I would have thought ignoring it was obvious and expected....what are you afraid of - that she will think you're a dick who is just using her for sex and doesn't actually want to go out with her? Isn't that a more accurate description of your relationship than being someone's Valentine? A day to celebrate lovers?

If you, for whatever reason believe that she will appreciate the sentiment of a Valentines Card and you are worried she will think you like her more than you do - then, my guess is that she likes you more than as just a F-Buddy and you are fully aware of this. Honestly, I haven't met a girl yet who has been in a situation like that and didn't secretly want more - but maybe that's my generation.

So, if you send her a V Day card you're keeping her sweet and securing the arrangement.

If all she is to you is a F-Buddy then don't acknowledge Valentines Day. If it causes a problem.....then you weren't just F-Buddies

Miss Fluff

Why on earth would you even acknowledge it? :eek: If you even make reference to it you're going to change the dynamic of a comfortable arrangement that suits you both - say nothing.

LegacyUser

Alright alright, it was just a thought. Suppose I do see her as a friend so didnt want to look like a bastard. Would have been more a jokey/cheeky text, was just thinking that might be less awkward than saying nothing. She prob wouldnt even text back anyway. Guess I'll ignore it so.

miss dublin

a text will do it any more than that and id be a bit freaked if my buddy did that so im expectin sweet fa haha...i think u may like her a little tho

orchidsrpretty

I would send her a text. I send all my friends male and female messages. It can be seen as a day where people make that little extra effort to tell people they care about that they are thinking of them. it doesnt have to be all love and romance. As the name **** buddy says, she is your buddy! Even when there is no romantic feeling invovled I would be a bit miffed if I didn't even get a text message, no card or flowers needed.