church/priest payment

altoids

Hi folks,

I'm getting married this summer and am wondering what the normal/average amount is that you pay("donate") to the church or priest?
I really don't want to give too much or too little

Any ideas?

thanks

vicwatson

I'd say they'd tell you how much it costs to be honest

Gatica

It's not the cost of the wedding, it's usually a brown envelope to the priest, that kind of thing.
I don't know as we never had to pay anyone for that. But friends of mind said they were giving the priest 100 when they christened their baby. Would that be about the same donation amount as for a wedding?

altoids

yeah, i thought it was a brown envelope too - just looking for the average amount

deskgirl

No charge if you live in the parish. Think 100-150 would be the average

amber2

Think i agree with he will tell you comment, it depends on the priest but when I approached my local PP just to get forms filled in he was fairly clear and concise on exactly how much he wanted for doing so.

silly

Our priest never mentioned money to us. But we gave him €150 and gave €50 to the sacristan.

miguelk

I asked the priest "what was the charge" because usually in my native parish they look for something like 300 if your from there and 600 if your not!

He said he wasn't looking for any money, fair play to him. Still gave him 200 I think.

Always nice to think of the sarcristan as well..... which now that I think of it, I didn't, goddammit.

Penny Dreadful

I'm going to give €200 to the priest and €20/50 to the Sacrsitan too.

I asked my mum to find out how much as her friend works in the parish office and it would appear that it is really up to the couple to decide. One couple who were both from very wealthy families and were well off themselves gave the priest a bottle of wine and another couple gave €1000. The latter is totally OTT as far as I am concerned and the former is stingy in the extreme.
I'm happy enough to give €200.

who the fug

Have they stopped paying the altar boys

Penny Dreadful

who the fug wrote: »

Have they stopped paying the altar boys

I wasn't going to have any........do you need them?

altoids

thanks everybody! Our situation is a little different as the priest is an old family friend coming to my church to marry us. So based on your replies i think i'll give him 100 and give 100 to the church

thanks again

silly

You need to ask in advance if you want alter servers, as their parents need to be asked etc.
We didn't have any, I don't think there is any need.

My husbands brother in law was a minister of the Eucharist and he gave out communion with him. So if some in your congregation then maybe they could do that. It's nice to have family involved in the day as much as possible I think.