valentines day

Mr_Burn

Hi All.

Ex broke up with me last year for one reason and another. We still keep in touch the odd time.

Seen as Valentines is soon would it be a bad idea to send them a valentines mail or text?

Sephiroth_dude

Mr_Burn wrote: »

Hi All.

Ex broke up with me last year for one reason and another. We still keep in touch the odd time.

Seen as Valentines is soon would it be a bad idea to send them a valentines mail or text?

and say what excactly? no don't do it

Miss Fluff

Mr_Burn wrote: »

Hi All.

Ex broke up with me last year for one reason and another. We still keep in touch the odd time.

Seen as Valentines is soon would it be a bad idea to send them a valentines mail or text?

Yes, an extremely bad idea.Exes are exes for good reason.

Mr_Burn

To say something romantic or send a cute image. Yeah probable a bad idea.

Thanks for the replies

I am a friend

Do you want up get back with them?

Mr_Burn

Yes would like to get back with them.

qwertytlk

If you want to re start the relationship then i would only do this if i thought the other person would have a chance of being interested. So you still keep in touch, what your gut feeling? Are they in another relatonship? And why did you break up? Im not asking you to reply with answers to these q's, more to ask yourself these questions and within your answers to them you should be able to see wheater its a good idea to try and rekindle the romance. Like for example, if the other person is not ina relationship now, you still get on well and feel there may still be feelings there and if you didnt have a bad break-up then id say you would probably have a good enough chance so if thats definatley what you want then go for it.

tinkerbell

Mr_Burn wrote: »

Hi All.

Ex broke up with me last year for one reason and another. We still keep in touch the odd time.

Seen as Valentines is soon would it be a bad idea to send them a valentines mail or text?

Eh yes it would be an extremely bad idea and completely inappropriate. You're broken up so you don't send them a Valentine's day or text.

Besides, if you do want to get back with your ex, it's a complete waste of time trying to do it on Valentine's Day. Valentine's is the stupidest holiday in existence and your ex will only think you're doing it just because you're feeling lonely on the day Hallmark say you should be celebrating the day of romance, rather than actually how you feel about the person.

cruais

Bad idea. Just because it's valentines day, doesn't mean you have to profess your love again. If it was going to happen again, it would have happened already.

chickenbutt

Don't do it. Last year I got a valentine's email from an ex and it was really weird. I had moved on with my life and it was just sad to see that he was still stuck on me. I didn't know how to react, and my boyfriend was really put off by it when he saw it (he was next to me when I was checking my inbox). Don't use Valentine's Day as a reason to try and win her back. It only works in the movies.

IrishEyes19

We dont know the ins and out of your relationship, if your keeping in touch I can only assume you're on good terms, so I would advise if you really want to try and see if you can get back together, do it outside of Valentines day, doing on Valentines would only make you seem lonely and desperate. So really all you can do is pluck up the courage and talk to her face to face telling her how you feel.

I dont agree getting back with an ex is a bad idea, people break up for all sorts of reasons and if you really feel she is worth it, go for it. That said, if its just because you're feeling lonely and valentines is making you feel that way. Just hold off and see how you feel afterwards. Getting back together is lovely and romantic, but the original problems will still be there and you will have to come together to work on them. Its also scary because there will always be the history of what happened planted in your mind, so you really have to want this I think, because theres no going back and you may lose the current friendship you have now.

Overheal

Making her awkward, putting yourself out on a ledge... can't advise that. It's far more probable you'll just end up getting the reaction you don't want than the reaction you do. And you're going to feel like sh*t about it.

SineadMarie

Your clearly still in love with her after a year. If there is no hope of you getting back together i think for your own sake and to let you move on you should cut contact for a while until your ready to be her friend only.

Mr_Burn

Thank you for all the replies.

We did not breakup on bad terms and neither of use have anyone at the min. Broke up October last year but think as everyone has siad its better off to leaving it and doing it outside of Valentines day.

Judes

I would say so inappropriate - don't just use one day as an excuse to be romantic because you feel sad/lonely/sorry for yourself - you're playing games with your ex. If you want to win her back - let her know before Valentine's Day i.e. there are 364 other days in the year. You would both need to discuss this - she may have moved on, she could be upset, angry, confused by this romantic sign from an ex.

Last year a dozen red roses were delivered to my work place from an ex who had walked out of my life 9 months earlier without discussion/explanation - so I was horrified at the delivery to my work place. I was so angry at his stupidity - did he honestly think a bunch of flowers would make up for walking out on a 6 year relationship without an explanation. My work colleagues were also angry at his cheek. Needless to say I didn't want the roses nor did I keep the roses, but donated them to the local community hospital.

I'm not talking about a teenager but a man in his mid 40's who did this. So poster - if I sound hard, I'm sorry - but really - an ex is an ex is an ex........... they are not your consolation prize when you've nothing better to do.