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  • 04-02-2012 11:12am
    #1
    skwinty
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 137 ✭✭


    My and my ex broke up last july after 3 years after a really bad few months. When we broke up we were very much in love and i feel that we broke up prematurely (as does she).

    I've tried to be over her and i just cant seem to get her out of my head. We dont see each other much nowadays, but there are mutual friends involved. My ex is seein someone else and seems happy although i cant help but think that we should get back together. She is extremely jealous of me and my new partner, if only she knew that this new relationship
    just isnt as perfect as she thinks it is. I dont know how my ex feels, we haven't talked about our relationship in a long time. Should i broach the subject with her?

    My new partner and i have gone through hell lately after her ex found out we were together and i feel that i would be horribly mean if i broke up with her after all of this. Maybe it's just that it is still way too early for me to be in a relationship or maybe i'm just not finding what i want in my current partner.

    What should i do? Should i talk to my ex about all this and gauge what her feelings are? Or should i just leave it?


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  • #2
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    It sounds to me like you aren't over your ex and so aren't really ready to be in a relationship. I think you need some time to get your head straight about what YOU want and what's best for YOU here - and to be free to pursue whatever that is.

    I wouldn't worry about feeling horribly mean - I think it's meaner to know you don't have your heart in a relationship but pretend to someone that cares about you that it is...and sometimes we just need to put what's best for ourselves first.

    All the very best.


  • #3
    daisybelle2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,403 ✭✭✭daisybelle2008


    To be honest it doesn't sound like any of you are ready to be in a relationship. All this drama, jealous exes (inc yourself), staying in unhappy situations, is very immature.
    You are looking back with rose tinted glasses.

    Seriously be single for at least 6 months and learn to be happy in your own company before embarking on another relationship. You could be a little addicted to the soap opera dramatics at the moment.


  • #4
    missbelle
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 494 ✭✭missbelle


    Agree with last poster!
    You haven't resolved issues with your ex gf, so you can't commit to this new girl. Add to that her ex's issues, and it gets very messy! you need to take some time for yourself, and sort out where your head is at, and what/who you want!


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