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cruais

I've deleted the post as its all sorted now. Thanks for the advice.

daisybelle2008

It looks to me like you are over reacting. I am not clear on whether he is picking you up or dropping you off though from your post. I'll assume picking you up.

Seriously why would you want him to go to the inconvenience of getting up at 4.30 a.m , confine himself to the house friday night, miss an opportunity to socialise with his mates on a night you are not around anyway, all because you could not be arsed getting a taxi from the airport? And he is offering to pay too!

You got your extra 20 mins in bed and now you want him to get up about 5 hours earlier
than most on his day off?

Get the taxi and enjoy the rest of your weekend.

Ickle Magoo

I'm not sure I follow - you had to go away with work the other day and you land at 5am tomorrow...but the argument is about him dropping you at the airport? Are you not already AT the airport? How can you drive yourself?

Anywhoo - I'd say while it's annoying when anyone changes plans and we were looking forward to seeing them, I wouldn't be expecting anyone to get up at 4am or so to pick me up from the airport when a taxi would do the job.

All the best

Miss Fluff

The OP's husband very kindly offered to leave her to the airport earlier in the week and in doing so she left her own car behind. This in turn she assumes will mean him also collecting her from the airport in the morning as she won't have her car. That's what I decipher from it anyway although it's not very clear.

In answer to your question OP you are over-reacting and showing yourself to be unbelievably inconsiderate. Your husband wants to go out with his buddies for a few drinks on Friday night. What's the problem there, you're not even at home?

Secondly, the fact that you have this expectation that he will pick you up IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT is unbelievable. Lovely of him if he offers but you shouldn't expect him to get out of bed.

Thirdly, I don't know what kind of company you work for but the fact that they don't lay on a taxi to pick you up at the airport is unacceptable. I've worked in jobs where I've travelled internationally and everything is expensed so I don't know what big deal is about getting a taxi and not waking your husband up in the middle of the night

TOTAL over-reaction on your part imho.

LovelyLottie

I can't understand the sequence of events, so can't comment.

Also can't comment on whether you're overreacting if i don't know the context of this incident. If he does this kind of thing all the time (changes plans at the last minute or lets you down when you're relying on him) then yeah maybe you've some grounds to be annoyed. If it's an isolated incident, i'd say it might be slightly irritating but not the behaviour of an @sshole.

Generally if i get annoyed by something like this, it's because there's lots of history behind it, and there's something else i'm really annoyed about.

jimmycrackcorm

Op, he's not your chauffeur. He's his own independent person and you're well able to sort out your own transport.

It's not like it's a romantic gesture.

Ken.

If i told my missus to leave her car at home and said i'd drop her to and collect her from somewhere and then i didn't collect her because of a few beers I know i'd be in a world of hurt.

Doesn't matter what time its at. He offered to collect her and now he's not. He's letting her look for a taxi at that hour of the morning and god bless his soul he'll leave the fare out for her to pay with.

If the o.p. knew all this she would have driven herself to and from the airport.

This is my opinion of my interpretation of the o.p.(I'm assuming the o.p's hubby dropped her off and is now not collecting her).

qwertytlk

Little bit of an over reaction. I mean if your not getting in till 4.30am then its not as if you will be spending much quality time together then anyway. I assume you would just be going home to bed? And at least this way he is going out a night your not around so you have the rest of the weekend to spend together. As for the taxi/getting a lift with him thing....well i dont see the difference, bar someone else will be driving the car! Its not really and inconvienience to get a taxi is it? Its an inconvienience to get the bus. So im kinda wondering is there another issue here, maybe with his ffriends? Or that he is going our drinking when your not around?

If it were me, i would jus try forget it. Let it go and enjoy the rest of the weekend together because if it turns into an argument, i dont see the rest of your weekend together being much fun. And as you said, you were looking forward to spendng the weekend with him after being stuck away for work all week so dont let this spoil that!