Too Young

astonaidan

Hey Guys, Just wondering what ye think is to young to go out with, Theirs this girl whos 18 and im 25 who i really like and get on with, Just not sure bout the age gap

Julie London

It depends on her level of maturity and yours! Most girls are more emotionally mature than their years. At 18 she is legal but does she act like an adult? Also is she still in school or working or in college?
The age gap is not huge, but i would be inclined to ask her parents permission to date her. (once of course the girl is keen on you!) old fashioned i know but they might worry and it would show them you have a level of repsect for their daughter.

Miss Fluff

I personally think it's too much. Seven years between mature adults is nothing on the grand scheme of things and if she was say 25 and you were 32it would mean nothing. But she is just 18 and I suspect probably in school? I presume you've done your degree and are working and busy with adult stuff? When you meet up are you going to pick her up after school in her uniform etc? While girls are more mature than boys you're not really a "boy" anymore and I think the differences between you would become really apparent as time goes on.

Da Shins Kelly

I don't think there's anything wrong with it as such, but it may transpire that you don't actually have as much in common as you think. Seven years isn't much if she was a bit older, but seen as she's either still in school or just out of school, and you're long past that you could find yourselves in completely different places. By all means though, give it a go if you both want to and best of luck.

Ickle Magoo

After 18 I think it's less about age and more about maturity and life-stage. Some 18yr olds are very mature and their life-stage wouldn't be that different to someone in their mid 20's...others are going to be poles apart and that makes a relationship very difficult.

All the best.

ApeXaviour

While obviously there's a little more to be wary of, you're at different stages, look carefully and don't go in blind... But at the same time stop worrying what other people think. If you're happy, good together, and you both have similar goals then what's the harm. Who cares what the nosy curtain-twitcher next door thinks.

astonaidan

Julie London wrote: »

It depends on her level of maturity and yours! Most girls are more emotionally mature than their years. At 18 she is legal but does she act like an adult? Also is she still in school or working or in college?
The age gap is not huge, but i would be inclined to ask her parents permission to date her. (once of course the girl is keen on you!) old fashioned i know but they might worry and it would show them you have a level of repsect for their daughter.

We are both doing a gap year in Australia she is nearly 19, As for asking her parents shes from Canada

Miss Fluff wrote: »

I personally think it's too much. Seven years between mature adults is nothing on the grand scheme of things and if she was say 25 and you were 32it would mean nothing. But she is just 18 and I suspect probably in school? I presume you've done your degree and are working and busy with adult stuff? When you meet up are you going to pick her up after school in her uniform etc? While girls are more mature than boys you're not really a "boy" anymore and I think the differences between you would become really apparent as time goes on.

Ive not finished my degree Im doing Architecture so taking 2 years out to travel the world, Shes finished her first year in Uni and is taking a gap year when Im talking to her it doesnt seem their is an age gap, I actually didnt notice till she said it

Miss Fluff

astonaidan wrote: »

We are both doing a gap year in Australia she is nearly 19, As for asking her parents shes from Canada

Ive not finished my degree Im doing Architecture so taking 2 years out to travel the world, Shes finished her first year in Uni and is taking a gap year when Im talking to her it doesnt seem their is an age gap, I actually didnt notice till she said it

Ah ok, that changes things considerably. You're both sharing experiences and at a similar place in life by the sounds of things. If you like her then I'd go for it

CIARAN_BOYLE

astonaidan wrote: »

We are both doing a gap year in Australia she is nearly 19, As for asking her parents shes from Canada

Ive not finished my degree Im doing Architecture so taking 2 years out to travel the world, Shes finished her first year in Uni and is taking a gap year when Im talking to her it doesnt seem their is an age gap, I actually didnt notice till she said it

I agree with Miss Fluff you both seem like you are in the same kind of life stage at the moment, mid uni gap year getting away.

If you were hanging out at parties for college freshman I would have a different picture of things.

astonaidan

It turns out that she has a boyfriend at home, Only realised it when she kept rejecting a call on the phone and I asked who it was and she said it was her boyfriend!

snafuk35

astonaidan wrote: »

Hey Guys, Just wondering what ye think is to young to go out with, Theirs this girl whos 18 and im 25 who i really like and get on with, Just not sure bout the age gap

She is an adult and you are an adult.

Ickle Magoo

Okay OP, as you have closure on your issue now, I'll lock the thread.

All the best. :cool: