Definitely straight...possibly bi?

LegacyUser

Hi everyone,

First time starting a thread in this forum.

Not a big deal, not really something I agonise over, but I guess I'm more curious than anything.

I'm a mid-20s female, single but with a few relationships and a lot of flings/ONS/drunken kisses/you name it with men behind me. I've always considered myself straight and I am definitely strongly attracted to men.

However, over the years I've found that I'm also attracted to women but a sexual level only. Without wanting to be graphic, I watch quite a bit of lesbian porn (not the fake lipstick lesbian stuff, but real couples). I've only had one sexual experience with another woman, as part of a threesome with a guy and a girl, I was far more into her than him. Often when I'm masturbating this is what I think about to 'get me over the edge' so to speak, and I find that I can often bring myself to climax far quicker with fantasies about women rather than men.

However, I wouldn't be remotely interested in a relationship with a woman, I crave sex and intimacy with men more and have always enjoyed a straight sex life. I'm not concerned with labels or anything and don't think it's ever something I'd have to 'come out' to anyone about, I'd imagine it's common than many straight women get bi-curious...but I suppose I'm curious about how I would be labelled if it came down to it. Is this the definition of bisexuality, or does it have to constitute an equal attraction to both sexes?

Thanks for reading

MarriedButBi

Hi. I have feelings that are much the same as yours, only in reverse, i.e. I am a man.

I think what you are feeling is perfectly normal, and probably more people have feelings along these lines than you think. As has been discussed on here loads, there is a wide spectrum where the ends are labelled "straight" and "gay". We all sit on that spectrum, somewhere or other.

I'd say I am 65% straight. When I am drunk, or very horny, it becomes more 50/50, maybe even slightly more gay than straight - I am more keen & turned on by the more forbidden pleasures.

As regards labelling? Who cares, really? It sounds like you are more straight than gay, i.e. you dont want a relationship with a girl. I'd label you as normal, open minded, and possibly at an experimental stage. Go out and experiment so!! Enjoy & be safe!

Dwn Wth Vwls

Usually it's men asking this, with the exact same story but the roles reversed, it's kind of amusing/refreshing I think you have the choice of labels really. Bicurious, bisexual, mostly straight. Any of them could apply, it's up to you really, whichever speaks to you. Bisexuality certainly doesn't have to be equal attractions.

One thing that sticks out about your post to me is that you're so definite you have zero interest in a relationship with a woman. I think it's worth considering if that's really how you feel, or if you're just letting society push things onto you. It's pretty common for people who are just beginning to explore their bisexuality to feel like it's not something they'd ever be interested in, but often it's just social conditioning telling them it's wrong somehow.

It might never happen, you might never meet a woman that interests you, but it's nice to be open to things.

MarriedButBi

It's like having an itch that you need to scratch...

LegacyUser

Thanks for the feedback guys.

I guess I was just curious more than anything, as a part of me thought maybe this is sort of normal, just people don't really talk about it. I'm not sure if any of my female friends have had similar thoughts/experiences.

Dwn With Vwls - a relationship with a woman is not something I ever really considered. I'm open minded, but it just seems like a foreign concept to me! I'm a real girl's girl, have had a strong female influence in my life and generally form strong emotional bonds with female friends, moreso than guys actually, but I just don't crave intimacy in that way with women. I feel like I need the yin yang thing with men! Though God knows they can be hard work!

I'm single though, and excluding my one (drunken) experience I've never really explored this bicuriosity, so who knows, maybe now's the time?

Thanks for the comments.

passable

same as me i think
the forbidden pleasures are always good go out enjoy yourself and keep it safe