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Falling for my brothers friend who i disliked

  • 02-02-2012 1:39am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Going unreg for this. sorry if bit long.

    Know this fella *Simon 15 years since we in school together, and he was a prat to me then so wouldn’t speak to him for long time although he became good friends with my brother after school which didn’t impress me at all.

    Anyway in last 10 years, my family have treated him like another brother, invited to birthdays/ weddings etc, again. First few years I’d leave room if he came into house and later when I grew up a bit :s I’d say hello, how are you and then leave! Lol!

    Anyway roll on few years, and I will talk a bit more to him but never start conversations etc.
    Anyway last year, we ended up working in same bar and its like this ice wall I have inside me over him has began melting..

    I started feeling delighted when I seen him coming into bar This annoyed me though, I didn’t want to feel like this.

    So we were getting on, and I found myself liking him and thought right its cos we’re “friends” now.

    But last few months I’ve feelings for him, and I dunno what to do. BROTHER's Friend!!

    Before xmas, for example, saw him after work sitting in his car and jumped in for chat (if anyone told me this just 3 years ago, I’d laugh in face!)
    He’d few drinks in him, we were chatting a bit, I was upset about something, next thing he was holding my hand which took me back a bit, (again 3 years ago id laugh!) and I gradually pulled away (idiot!).
    A few nights later, he dropped my brother home and I called him in for tea , I wouldn’t usually , but he came in and was there 2 hours, we had good chats with bro snoozing away.

    Anyway thing that bugging me is when we see each other, its great, we’ll chat, even on own (not that that’s often)
    but then I’ll msg him on fb and its 1/2 word answers , or I’ll text him about something just so I can start chat and again one word answers..
    What's that about?!

    And then he’s down to our house for something or another and we’ll be chatting away!
    I know there’s the thing of he’s my brothers friend.

    I don't know what i'm asking if i am even, Never ever in million years did i expect to have feelings for this guy EVER!
    Cant even tell friends/close cousins really cos i always made it clear that i disliked him, i didnt go on about it but they'd be say aw *simon's lovely and get on great with him and i'd just nod and smile.


Comments

  • #2
    ted1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 23,891 ✭✭✭✭ted1


    Go for it.

    Now slightly off topic what was he doing in his car with a few pints in him?


  • #3
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    He was happy to make a lunge at you when he was drunk but doesn't respond to other attempts to communicate. I would leave it tbh, if he were interested he would be taking those opportunities to talk to you privately.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    ted1 wrote: »
    Go for it.

    Now slightly off topic what was he doing in his car with a few pints in him?

    thought this might come up, parked eating from chipper, no driving involved! :) he jumped in taxi home then! :)

    as for annoying when younger, yeah i didnt accept this for ages stupidly and at that time he wasnt friends with brother.

    well , will see if he responds to any more attempts. ;s


  • #5
    qwertytlk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 747 ✭✭✭qwertytlk


    Okay so the only problems here are 1)your not sure how your brother will react/if simon is reluctant because you are his friends sister and 2)the fact he is all chatty to your face and then doesnt seem to be bothered when you fb or text him?
    So for the first one, id say that doesnt really matter. I know some brothers can be a little bit funny about their sisters getting with their mates but as long as your both honest with him and say you habve had feelings for a while etc then he should be ok. Anyway lets face it, he has no control over who you, or his friends, get into relationships with!
    Secondly, it may be that he simply just isnt into texting or instant messaging etc and prefers face to face interaction. Do you know if he seems to send long messages to other people? Like on facebook, does he usually just write statements instead of questions and other info on friends profiles?
    I think you should up the ante and see how it goes. If he likes you he should respond in some way or another.


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