My hen party - how to avoid inviting certain people?

jeanie_12

Hey guys, my hen party is being organised for Blackpool. Its just a small bunch of us heading over, been friends for years etc etc. Now, close relatives of mine live close by, and they will want an invite based purely on how close they live to Blackpool. I rarely see them and from past experience I have a feeling it could be awkward. Anyone have advice as to how I can get out of inviting them, without insulting them?

Chuck Stone

Fuck 'em.

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Immaculate Pasta

Why why why why are you going to Blackpool? :eek:

Stereomaniac

She wants to go to Blackpool, I would imagine. Remember Pasta, people have different tastes.

greimorm

Have mock hen party in pub with them?

stovelid

Tell them you all have AIDS.

Duckworth_Luas

Just don't go to Blackpool!

stupidusername

Tell her you're not going to Blackpool anymore. simple

kfallon

Tell them you are going to Devon for your hen, they'll never find out the truth will they?

MagicMarker

Err, don't tell them?

greimorm

Red herring?

My name is URL

Call off the marriage.. it's the only solution

PseudoFamous

Say it's just your closest friends.

starlit

Invite who you want. Don't bother with the ones you don't want to go. Make up an excuse! Its your hen party so you should invite who ever you want and enjoy it!

InkSlinger67

Tell them they're Trolls, just like you

jeanie_12

No, not trolling, I wish that was the case. I like the idea of telling them that its only close friends. Don't want to insult them though. Theyll be at the wedding so can't tell them its somewhere else, just in case someone mentions it.

westendgirlie

I bet they are at home in Blackpool thinking of excuses to tell you cos they DON'T want to go to your hen party

Mike 1972

Tell them youre going to Blackpool

Dont tell them its the one in Cork

FouxDaFaFa

Just meet them for lunch or something rather than bringing them on the whole thing.

Latchy

It's not unusual to have several hotels in same area with the same name so you send them to the wrong one 7 miles away down the Blackpool strip .

As Del Boy might say '' aren't I clever ''

Balmed Out

send a group email inviting all to stag in killarney or wherever there is no airport links to wherever their from. Then after recieving made up excuses which fingers cross are the type not easily retracted change the plan.

Mike 1972

Dont tell anyone youre getting married ?

Although youd maybe need to let your boyfriend know about half an hour or so before !

44leto

I wasn't going to go anyway!!!!

theoneeyedman

Tell them nothing, and afterwards tell em it was your bridesmaid that organised it and you didn't know where you were going

kinetic

Tell them all your going to blackpool, no1 will want to go. its full of northern english skangers.
By the way whats trolling?

John Doe1

Kill them and eat their flesh:)

Where To

Go to Newcastle instead.

greimorm

jeanie_12 wrote: »

No, not trolling, I wish that was the case. I like the idea of telling them that its only close friends. Don't want to insult them though. Theyll be at the wedding so can't tell them its somewhere else, just in case someone mentions it.

I still say have two hens,one near home for them and the other in Blackpool.

De Hipster

Eh simple solution - surprise destination (chief bridesmaid arranging) ...you don't know anything about where, when, etc.

YFlyer

Would these relatives 'spill the beans' if anything crazy happen?

AngryBollix

jeanie_12 wrote: »

Hey guys, my hen party is being organised for Blackpool. Its just a small bunch of us heading over, been friends for years etc etc. Now, close relatives of mine live close by, and they will want an invite based purely on how close they live to Blackpool. I rarely see them and from past experience I have a feeling it could be awkward. Anyone have advice as to how I can get out of inviting them, without insulting them?

Dear Relatives,

I rarely see you.

I don't want you at my hen.

I'm not inviting you.

F*ck off.

(p.s you either invite or you don't. there is no easy way out other than not telling them when or where it is)

dirtyden

jeanie_12 wrote: »

Hey guys, my hen party is being organised for Blackpool. Its just a small bunch of us heading over, been friends for years etc etc. Now, close relatives of mine live close by, and they will want an invite based purely on how close they live to Blackpool. I rarely see them and from past experience I have a feeling it could be awkward. Anyone have advice as to how I can get out of inviting them, without insulting them?

Why did you pick a location near a group of people you do not want to invite? Why not just got to Manchester or somewhere?

lilblackdress

theoneeyedman wrote: »

Tell them nothing, and afterwards tell em it was your bridesmaid that organised it and you didn't know where you were going

This would be my answer!

Caraville

I don't know why on earth you're choosing to go to Blackpool if there are people there you are trying to avoid! Surely there are loads of other places you could choose?

Anyway if you insist on going there, go the "my bridesmaids surprised me" route.

I f**king hate hen nights, such a waste of money, and I hate when there's some "theme" or costume you're asked to wear. Cringe. I love fancy dress but in a big crowd of women half of whom you either don't know or don't like wearing a costume you had no choice in or a pink crappy t shirt with some double-entendre or "Gurleez on tour" on it, puke.

Stuck Cone

Caraville wrote: »

I don't know why on earth you're choosing to go to Blackpool if there are people there you are trying to avoid! Surely there are loads of other places you could choose?

Anyway if you insist on going there, go the "my bridesmaids surprised me" route.

I f**king hate hen nights, such a waste of money, and I hate when there's some "theme" or costume you're asked to wear. Cringe. I love fancy dress but in a big crowd of women half of whom you either don't know or don't like wearing a costume you had no choice in or a pink crappy t shirt with some double-entendre or "Gurleez on tour" on it, puke.

Ahhh fresh meat hehe yum yum gurgle

lucylu

theoneeyedman wrote: »

Tell them nothing, and afterwards tell em it was your bridesmaid that organised it and you didn't know where you were going

Yip this is the way to go. Make sure all your relations know you are having a surprise hen and you don't know where you are going that the bridemaids organised it.

earpiece

Simples..... tell the the truth - just you and a few close friends, and me, your little sex toy. Everybody happy.

Snowie

jeanie_12 wrote: »

Hey guys, my hen party is being organised for Blackpool. Its just a small bunch of us heading over, been friends for years etc etc. Now, close relatives of mine live close by, and they will want an invite based purely on how close they live to Blackpool. I rarely see them and from past experience I have a feeling it could be awkward. Anyone have advice as to how I can get out of inviting them, without insulting them?

tell them to get fvck if you don't care why you worried about insulting them?

up for anything

Go to PI, not Blackpool.

What's with the recent spate of PI type posts in AH?

JonathanAnon

jeanie_12 wrote: »

No, not trolling, I wish that was the case. I like the idea of telling them that its only close friends. Don't want to insult them though. Theyll be at the wedding so can't tell them its somewhere else, just in case someone mentions it.

Sounds like your black-balled... If you are all on Facebook, AND they are going to the wedding, you're really not going to get away with it... Why dont you just veto Blackpool, but suggest another location (far away from Blackpool) that you know they will all agree on..

mconigol

Caraville wrote: »

I don't know why on earth you're choosing to go to Blackpool if there are people there you are trying to avoid! Surely there are loads of other places you could choose?

Anyway if you insist on going there, go the "my bridesmaids surprised me" route.

I f**king hate hen nights, such a waste of money, and I hate when there's some "theme" or costume you're asked to wear. Cringe. I love fancy dress but in a big crowd of women half of whom you either don't know or don't like wearing a costume you had no choice in or a pink crappy t shirt with some double-entendre or "Gurleez on tour" on it, puke.

All women love hen parties. Fact.

lazygal

Don't have a hen party. I didn't and it made life much easier. Hate going to them, hate the expectations that surround them, hate the faux girlyness and nonsense of them. YUCK.

Caraville

mconigol wrote: »

All women love hen parties. Fact.

You're right, sorry. I must have temporarily lost my mind when I made that post.

Bring on the penis straws and inappropriate behaviour around the future mother-in-law!!

Mike 1972

lazygal wrote: »

Don't have a hen party. I didn't and it made life much easier. Hate going to them, hate the expectations that surround them, hate the faux girlyness and nonsense of them. YUCK.

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=67937163

(R&R Thread "L Plates")

Mike 1972 wrote: »

No its not a rant against the RSA's favourite scapegoat Im talking about the practice of having the bride-to-be at a hen party parading around with an L plate stuck on their back.

I mean why do people think this is in anyway amusing or original. Its akin to something from the cutting room floor of an early carry-on film FFS. And is based on assumptions which were ridiculously outdated even back then.

It certainly gives lie to the old wife-to-be's tale about women being more mature than blokes since not even a 12 year old schoolboy would find such an attempt at humour amusing.

Normally its silly enough but when one sees it on a woman who already has kids and/or has been married before it just becomes ludicrous.

mconigol

Caraville wrote: »

You're right, sorry. I must have temporarily lost my mind when I made that post.

Bring on the penis straws and inappropriate behaviour around the future mother-in-law!!

I knew it!

You may not realise this but my emphatic statement earlier was simply a ploy to lure out your true feelings :cool:

(Also you forgot to mention inappropriate behaviour around random guys in the pub just minding their own business....God I hate them :mad:)