Girlfriend gone to australia

LegacyUser

Hey there, feel a bit silly posting in a forum like this but I'm feeling really down. I started going out with a girl who I used to work with about six months ago.. I always thought she was special, she is really good natured, funny and doesn't realise how beautiful she is. Well anyway, we really seemed to hit it off.. I didn't really know how things were going to go as I hadn't seen her in a long time but I found myself falling for her in a big way.. Unfortunately I was in College at the other end of the country as a mature student so we only really got to meet up a couple of times a week.

But, even before we started going out, she was planning to move to australia for career opportunities.. She had an offer which she couldn't really turn down. She thought twice about it as shed be leaving friends and family, but in fairness she'd be a fool not to take it. Its a two year contract.

I'm getting busier and busier with work and college, so I wouldn't be much of a companion anyway.. I just feel like I'm losing the best thing thats ever happened to me. Long distance is out of the question. Its not fair on either of us.

I'm doing my dream course in college and I know if wasnt doing it Id be on the next plane to australia tomorrow. We talked about the future and we both said how much we hoped we could get back together sometime. But what really are the chances of that happening.. People change so much in two years.. Were both in our early twenties, so I can imagine what kind of stuff people get up to in australia, which is making it even worse in my mind. I want to let her go but I cant bear the thought of losing her or anyone messing her around.

At first I was fine, we said our goodbyes, it was bit emotional but nothing overboard. But its really started to hit me in the last few days. Just needed to vent a bit.

Squiggler

people change so much in two years

Try 15 years That's how long it was between my now husband and I meeting and falling in love (undeclared on both sides) and eventually getting together. For 12 of those years we had, unintentionally, lost contact altogether.

Yes people change over the years, but that will happen in or out of a relationship, and no matter how geographically close you are, and if you are really compatible then the changes will be convergent and not divergent.

A friend of mine always says "what is meant to be will not pass you by", well, I don't know about that but I do know that what is worth having is worth waiting for.

Never give up hope...

Ickle Magoo

I think you just need to give yourself some time and allow yourself to be upset OP. Breaking up is hard at the best of times, breaking up with someone you still care about and who still cares about you doubly so.

There's no reason to extinguish that flame altogether but I wouldn't be putting your life on hold either. Do all the things you would have done to get over a conventional break up - go out with friends, start new activities, meet new people and keep busy...it might not seem like it now but two years will fly by.

All the very best.

Lolabear

hey op, I feel your pain, my boyfriend and I were only together a few months when he got the opportunity to study in america for a year as part of his course, before he left we decided to stay together and see how it goes, but i always said if i felt differently about him or someone else i would be honest with him, I didn't want to hold him back either.

It was a hard few months when he first went, but we were emailing and skyping almost everyday. I saved really hard to go visit him for two weeks which was great. He ended up coming home early because he wasn't happy.

you could consider doing the J1 to Oz for the summer, maybe move over after college?!?!?!

Everyone's relationships are different and that's just my experience with long distance, and i hope you cheer up - If it's meant to be it will.;)

LegacyUser

Just feelin down in the dumps about the whole thing, but I know it will get better. I nearly would prefer if we fell out beforehand or if we had a proper breakup tbh. Its funny, we actually never had a single fight.

I'm secretly hoping that a few years down the line we can give it another go.. But in the meantime I'm gonna work hard and focus on gettin my career sorted. She'll always be in the back of my mind though.

gypsy_rose

Don't lose hope OP! Break up for now, but keep in contact on Facebook etc. and drop her little emails now and then to stay in touch. Don't be hanging onto her but just chat to her as your friend for a little while, she'll be back for Christmas and things like that, like the others have said, if you're meant to be it'll work out somehow. Good luck

LegacyUser

I suspose whatever happens happens. Im just afraid she will never come back or will end up with someone else. We were emailing everyday, but its just getting too hard. What I wouldnt do for another cuddle Then again 2 years is only 24 months

Lolabear

if she doesnt come back or ends up with someone else, then its just not meant to be, and theres someone out there for you, it may be sucky now but it will work itself out either way