He has a small penis

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

A few months ago a new guy started working in the bar I work in and we clicked straight away. He's a really cool bloke with all the qulaities I look for in someone; he's funny, intelligent, well read etc BUT...there's always a but isn't there....we started to sleep together and he has a small penis.

We have had s*x now about 5 times and each time I convinced myself that I could overlook his penis size but I can't. I know it's all about what you do with it but really how much can you do with a tiny penis? He went down on me and it was nice but I am craving actual intercourse. He uses his hands too but it's just not the same.

I am so disappointed at teh situation but I'm also disappointed in myself taht this matters so much to me. I ended things with him this evening but just said it wasn't working for me, I obvioulsy didn't mention his penis.

Does this make me really shallow? To be honest after sex with him i was actually more frustrated and horny then before. I could barely feel him inside me:(

ongarboy

I don't think this makes you shallow. You are just being honest with yourself about what works for you and what doesn't and you also had the courtesy not to string him along and you ended it tactfully. His "shortcoming" appears to be a deciding factor for you that dictates whether there will be chemistry in the bedroom or not. It may not bother other women but then other things like height, weight, facial looks etc may be a deal breaker for them. If you feel you are tolerating what you see as a significant drawback in someone else then I would think that spells trouble for the future success of a relationship as you would be wishing for something that cannot change.

You have done yourself and him both a favour as you can both now seek partners who mutually tick enough boxes to make a relationship work.

LegacyUser

It's an unfortunate situation OP, but I think you've done all you can There's likely nothing either of you can do about it - this isn't something that can change or be fixed, no matter how much either of you might want to.

You gave it a reasonable go, and no, you're not in the least bit shallow, and don't let anyone tell you different. Sexual compatibility is important in an adult romantic relationship, and that's it really. While it's possible that you could come up with some way around this or some other way of dealing with the situation, it doesn't seem likely tbh, given that it's based on simple physical facts that aren't ever going to change. It's unfortunate that this issue makes a mess of things when you appear so compatible in other ways, but these things happen.

Best call a halt to it now, before you end up making things even worse for both of you. It doesn't mean you're a bad person or a shallow person, and it's not reflection on him either - as the previous poster pointed out, it may well work out differently with another woman. Either way, you do need to end it.

One last thing - at the risk of stating the obvious, absolutely do not tell him that this is the reason you're leaving him; this is one of those situations where the harm done by telling the truth far outweighs any noble notions of honesty.

LegacyUser

Apologies OP, just re-read your post and realised you've already ended it. Per the rest of my post, it's for the best, definitely, and doesn't mean you're a bad person.

hullaballoo

Sounds like you did the right thing. It's not shallow to consider whether or not you're going to be satisfied in a relationship with someone who cannot satisfy you physically.

It would be shallow if you ended things because you didn't want other people knowing you're going out with someone with a small dick. I think that's the difference.

going un-reg

I don't think it's shallow, some people put more emphasis on sexual relations than others do. I'd just not want to know that it was a reason why someone broke up with me (if I was him). My self-esteem would be destroyed.

Trust me, he KNOWS he's small. I just hope you won't regret breaking it off with someone who you said has everything you seek, except for the lack of an appropriate penis size.

Finding someone like that is hard in usual circumstances.

davet82

poor guy...


anyways i'd rather be shallow than cruel. if you dont like somethin about somebody and it really bothers you, there aint much ya can do about it. The cruel thing would have let this go on longer and telling him the truth!

best of luck finding a big one

Iwasfrozen

How small exactly was he op if you don't mind me asking? Was he a normal guy that was a little bit on the small side or did he actually have micropenis?

LegacyUser

Iwasfrozen wrote: »

How small exactly was he op if you don't mind me asking? Was he a normal guy that was a little bit on the small side or did he actually have micropenis?

Well it's about 5 inches erect, maybe a bit less and skinny. It's about as thick as a permanent marker!

The thing is, I think he's under the impression that he's a good size cos he'd say things to me during sex like ' Do you like the feel of my c*ck inside you?'. I'd be almost laughing in my head cos I actually couldn't feel it inside me!!

I ended it last week anyway and he took it quite badly. Things in work have been a little awkward but I know I did us both a favour. To another girl he could be the perfect size but to me it's just too small..

LegacyUser

5 inches is about normal but he does sound a bit skinny. although i think i am an average width size and i remember i met one girl and i could barely penetrate her because she was so tight. it could also work the opposite way where you could possibly be quite big down there and your both just a bad match for each other.

CyberJuice

OP have you considered trying to tighten up your vajina,maybe this could help,obviously i mean no offence,some women do stuff to try and not be so loose down below

beks101

CyberJuice wrote: »

OP have you considered trying to tighten up your vajina,maybe this could help,obviously i mean no offence,some women do stuff to try and not be so loose down below

With all due respect Cyber, it's a bit of a leap and a bit presumptuous to think that the problem is down to the OP being too loose. That's clearly not it, she just has a preference for penis size that this guy doesn't meet. Length and girth is important to many ladies, just as boob/ass size can be a big deal to many guys. Sexual preferences are just a fact of life, disappointing and unfortunate but nobody's fault when they lead to sexual incompatibility.

OP, I can see where you're coming from, and you did the right thing. Ultimately you know yourself when it comes down to it and I don't think this is something you could have overcome, so hanging in there and letting this guy fall further for you would have just been cruel.

SheFiend

CyberJuice wrote: »

OP have you considered trying to tighten up your vajina,maybe this could help,obviously i mean no offence,some women do stuff to try and not be so loose down below

this is a helpful comment. girls who don't exercise can be loose but can tighten up to increase their pleasure. It a possibility, not an assumption about the OP. Like she said he's perfect otherwise, and he can't change the thickness, so is an option.

Eve_Dublin

SheFiend wrote: »

this is a helpful comment. girls who don't exercise can be loose but can tighten up to increase their pleasure. It a possibility, not an assumption about the OP. Like she said he's perfect otherwise, and he can't change the thickness, so is an option.

Very often, no amount of exercise will make that much of a difference if the penis is small. You can't shrink the size of your vagina with exercises, just tighten it (and that's presuming it's loose in the first place).

Ickle Magoo

Shallowhallow wrote: »

I ended it last week anyway and he took it quite badly. Things in work have been a little awkward but I know I did us both a favour. To another girl he could be the perfect size but to me it's just too small..

Okay OP, as you're no longer with the guy and don't need any more advice/suggestions, I'll lock this thread.

All the best.