Pissed off big time

nonsmoker

During the week I was trying to get some friends to go out tonite and no one was going out.
Just been on facebook and see status updates from two of them - they are out in town and they had been discussing going out on facebook this morning so its not like it was a last minute decision.

One is a new friend who I took to lunch during the week with my other friends so that she could get to know more people, the others said they didnt think they'd be going out.

Never again will I try and include people and make sure they do not feel left out when thats exactly how I feel right now :mad:

ButterflyABC

nonsmoker wrote: »

During the week I was trying to get some friends to go out tonite and no one was going out.
Just been on facebook and see status updates from two of them - they are out in town and they had been discussing going out on facebook this morning so its not like it was a last minute decision.

One is a new friend who I took to lunch during the week with my other friends so that she could get to know more people, the others said they didnt think they'd be going out.

Never again will I try and include people and make sure they do not feel left out when thats exactly how I feel right now :mad:

Not nice feeling being left out. If you saw them planning why didn't you join in the conversation and invite yourself along. Not nice to feel left out. Some groups of friends are like that and they might not even realise they have left you out. I know with my group of friends we all just go out and there's no inviting done if you hear someone is going out we just invite ourselves along and just go and it's not that we wouldn't want anyone to come it's just the way we do it.

saa

Never give up on being considerate and trying to include others as people notice those niceties and will want to do the same.

This happens to everyone, there are people we try to be closer to and then you see a picture of them on facebook out having a great time and no one told you about it, accept they are probable in the acquaintances zone, there may be many reasons they didn't tell you about going out and it might be an innocent reason.

Just hold your head up high and focus on something for yourself

rotti oRiley

unfortunately with fb and other social media sites this can happen all too often. It has happened to me too, but i'm guessing i'm older than you and things like that get easier with age. Try not to take it personally, sometimes people are just caught up in their own selfishness and maybe genuinely forgot you.
Chin Up, and don't change what appears to be a lovely sensitive personality.

nonsmoker

Thanks for your nice replies

@ButterflyABC - I wasnt on FB during the day, it was late last night when I logged in so didnt know there was any planning until then, if I had been on earlier and saw my news feed I would have joined in.

@Saa - I am a considerate person and doubt that will ever change

@Rotti - You are right about FB, maybe its time to deactive, might be better off not knowing what people are chatting about. I don't know if it will ever get easier when this happens, its not nice no matter what age we are.

Princess Peach

I actually deleted a few "friends" on facebook because I kept getting upset about seeing them making plans and photos of nights out I hadn't been invited too. They both got really mad at this deletion. One of them never spoke to me again and when I explained it to the other one she apoligised, but still didn't start inviting me places. Long story though! Just saying I know how you feel and its horrible. I hate facebook but I'm too addicted to deactivate! Tried before and failed :P

Some people I think don't mean to leave you out, they just forget you. Which again isn't a nice feeling but I don't think they mean any bad by it. Try not to be shy about inviting yourself along when you see this happen, most people won't mind at all.

And maybe give one of these friends a text/facebook message tomorrow saying I saw ye went out, would have loved to come. Make sure you ask me the next time. Just have to be brave and forward about it.