Straight ???

passable

hey all quick question i have always considered myself straight , well until i had sex with a ts. Anyway i found myself thinking about other guys so i went to one of them saunas and done the job it was fine and all but i dont really find myself attracted to other guys.It felt more like an experience like id do it again no problem .Also i find myself thinking about ts/tv/cd s alot now i do find myself attracted to them.So i guess my question do any of you guys like this would you consider it Bi-sexual?

baby and crumble

Hey there,

I think that only you can really decide your sexuality. Maybe others will have a different perspective.

But please be aware that words like "tranny" are quite offensive, so please don't use them again, thanks.

passable

ok sorry edited

Dwn Wth Vwls

It's up to you what you want to label yourself really, only you know how you feel. I'd say you're not 100% straight if you had no problem going off to have sex with a guy just to check, but if you're not actually attracted to guys then you aren't necessarily bisexual either. You might like "mostly straight" or "pretty straight", but who's going to be asking anyway?

passable

Dwn Wth Vwls wrote: »

It's up to you what you want to label yourself really, only you know how you feel. I'd say you're not 100% straight if you had no problem going off to have sex with a guy just to check, but if you're not actually attracted to guys then you aren't necessarily bisexual either. You might like "mostly straight" or "pretty straight", but who's going to be asking anyway?

true maybe best off not tagging myself at all,and just see whatever happens happens

Shakti

I presume by your post your a guy?
I'm not sure but I think I know what your asking, for you and in my opinion you as a 'straight man' having sex with a transgender woman is heterosexual sex, having sex with a man would be homosexual sex, having sex with a transgender man would again be homosexual sex.
So you could identify yourself bisexual and good for you what anyone else thinks shouldn't matter as long as you and your partners are safe and happy maybe even a little love.

passable

Shakti wrote: »

I presume by your post your a guy?
I'm not sure but I think I know what your asking, for you and in my opinion you as a 'straight man' having sex with a transgender woman is heterosexual sex, having sex with a man would be homosexual sex, having sex with a transgender man would again be homosexual sex.
So you could identify yourself bisexual and good for you what anyone else thinks shouldn't matter as long as you and your partners are safe and happy maybe even a little love.

yea im a guy thanks for your message

who knows i could fall head over heels for a guy tomorrow hmm mardi grais is coming up and i am in sydney lol

cgcsb

Well from your post you say don't find males, in the traditional sense of the word, attractive. You do however find transexuals(or people who present themselves as female) attractive.

The above sounds heterosexual to me.

The fact that you had sex with a man(who I assume presented himself as male) in a sauna doesn't actually mean anything with regard to sexuality. Many gay men force themselves to have sex with women if even just for the experience.

passable

cgcsb wrote: »

Well from your post you say don't find males, in the traditional sense of the word, attractive. You do however find transexuals(or people who present themselves as female) attractive.

The above sounds heterosexual to me.

The fact that you had sex with a man(who I assume presented himself as male) in a sauna doesn't actually mean anything with regard to sexuality. Many gay men force themselves to have sex with women if even just for the experience.

ok so do many straight guys do this sort of thing or is just that im away from home and got a little brave to experiment

Shakti

passable wrote: »

hmm mardi grais is coming up and i am in sydney lol

you lucky lucky lucky lucky ......
grumble grumble

passable

Shakti wrote: »

you lucky lucky lucky lucky ......
grumble grumble

i supouse it would be rude not to if i am anyway inclined to it lol

cgcsb

passable wrote: »

ok so do many straight guys do this sort of thing or is just that im away from home and got a little brave to experiment

A LOT of straight men are into ts women. Based on that post I'd label you as a straight man. Of course you are the only person that really know this and you are the only person who can define your own sexuality. Nobody else in the world can tell you what you are, we all have to figure that out on our own.

oisindoyle

baby and crumble wrote: »

Hey there,

I think that only you can really decide your sexuality. Maybe others will have a different perspective.

But please be aware that words like "tranny" are quite offensive, so please don't use them again, thanks.

Isnt that a little harsh ? "words like tranny are quite offensive"...Since when ?
I have numerous friends who are trannys and anyone I know uses that term as do they .
I assume it's a personal opinion Baby,as if so surely it should remain like that ?
I have never heard anyone say it is "offensive"..

deirdre_dub

oisindoyle wrote: »

Isnt that a little harsh ?

No.

"words like tranny are quite offensive"...Since when ?

Since forever.

I have numerous friends who are trannys and anyone I know uses that term as do they .

First of all, an offensive word being used by the group against which it is offensive stops being offensive as such and starts being self-deprecating. So count yourself lucky that your friends trust you enough that they consider you enough a part of the group to not be offended by your use of the word.

I assume it's a personal opinion

Tr___y is extensively used by the pornographic industry to refer to trans people, and the vast majority of trans people have nothing to do with that industry. Tr___y it is also used by the transphobic - it is often the last thing a trans person will hear before a bottle is smashed against their head.

I have never heard anyone say it is "offensive"..

Yes, you have. You've heard it twice now.

baby and crumble

oisindoyle wrote: »

baby and crumble wrote: »

Hey there,

I think that only you can really decide your sexuality. Maybe others will have a different perspective.

But please be aware that words like "tranny" are quite offensive, so please don't use them again, thanks.

Isnt that a little harsh ? "words like tranny are quite offensive"...Since when ?
I have numerous friends who are trannys and anyone I know uses that term as do they .
I assume it's a personal opinion Baby,as if so surely it should remain like that ?
I have never heard anyone say it is "offensive"..

Many of the transgendered people who frequent this board have said on numerous occasions that tey find the word offensive (as deirdre_dub has pointed out) and because of that, as a mod, it is my responsibility to make sure that such language is not used in a way that may lead to transphobia.

Shakti

oisindoyle wrote: »

Isnt that a little harsh ? "words like tranny are quite offensive"...Since when ?

I also consider it offensive,
B&C was quite right to moderate the op who had NO problem with the moderation and seems like a genuine type of person, I have gf's that refer to each other frequently as 'bitch' but I wouldn't call my mother one and certainly not on mumsnet.

Rick_

I must admit, I have used 'that word' before as have other gay guys I know, but (speaking for myself at least) I have never meant it in a malicious way, only purely as a way of helping to identify to others who it was I was refering to in a conversation. I certainly won't say it any more if it causes that much offence but I don't know what the socially accepted term is, so perhaps someone could enlighten me and I shall use it from now on and make a point of saying to the other guys I know that it's not something that should be said.

I can't imagine the term would just be 'trans' as what do you follow that up with, 'person', 'woman' 'man'? I have to admit, if I heard someone say the phrase "That trans woman over there..." in a perfectly innocent context still sounds a bit borderline possibly offensive. Maybe it's just me.

deirdre_dub

Paddy C wrote: »

I must admit, I have used 'that word' before as have other gay guys I know, but (speaking for myself at least) I have never meant it in a malicious way, only purely as a way of helping to identify to others who it was I was refering to in a conversation.

That word is too close to the bone for those of us who are under constant threat of transphobic attack. Gay men, drag queens and transvestites aren't under that constant 24/7 threat, and so the word maybe loses much of its bite in those communities.

I certainly won't say it any more if it causes that much offence but I don't know what the socially accepted term is, so perhaps someone could enlighten me and I shall use it from now on and make a point of saying to the other guys I know that it's not something that should be said.

I can't imagine the term would just be 'trans' as what do you follow that up with, 'person', 'woman' 'man'? I have to admit, if I heard someone say the phrase "That trans woman over there..." in a perfectly innocent context still sounds a bit borderline possibly offensive. Maybe it's just me.

I identify myself as a woman. When my gender identity history is an issue, I qualify my identification by calling myself a transgender woman or a transgender person. I also call myself a trans woman or a trans person.

The only times that I've heard those terms being considered offensive is when they are used as nouns instead of adjectives. In other words, I wouldn't like to be called "a transgender" or "a trans". The words "trans" and "transgender" define an aspect of who I am - they aren't my identity. I've also seen people take issue with "transgendered woman" or "transgendered person". That makes it sound like this is something that happened to me.