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Why do we argue over text message and chat but never face to face?

  • 26-01-2012 10:22am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    We broke up a month ago over text. He usually says things like "this isn't going to work, i give up" every time we argue about something. And for the 3 times we argued, it was never face to face, its either through text message or online chat. So finally, the third time we argued in the 5 months we have been together, I agreed with the break up.

    At first I tried to convince him to meet up and talk about it because it was weird having arguments over texts and chats but never face to face. But he refused to meet, saying he wasn't ready to face me yet and that he would want to let the holidays past first. So after the holidays, I tried texting him. He would respond every time but never did I mention wanting to meet up again. After a few days, I just decided to do NO CONTACT.

    After a week, he would text me randomly and initiate conversations, but I would just respond politely. I don't want to get back together again because of his bad temper and the disrespectful way he argues with me but sometimes I still think about what may have caused this kind of behavior in him.. And what is the reason why we always fight through text or chat but never face to face? Whenever we are together, everything seems so perfect. What is the psych behind this behavior?


Comments

  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Honestly OP, I would have to say that neither of ye are mature enough to be in a relationship.


  • #3
    Alison Refined Van
    Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Alison Refined Van


    lost the battle wrote: »
    After a few days, I just decided to do NO CONTACT.

    ...but I would just respond politely.

    That's not "no contact"

    other than that i kind of agree with beruth


  • #4
    Squiggler
    Closed Accounts Posts: 945 ✭✭✭Squiggler


    Stop keeping in contact by text and chat. If he wants to talk he can call you or arrange to meet up.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    So if he tries to contact me again, shall I just ignore him? We have lots of friends in common, and it would be impossible for us not to cross paths in the future.


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