Man advice

LegacyUser

I would like some advice on how to get someone off my mind. This has been driving me crazy for months now. I met a guy through an evening course I was doing and at first I didn't even notice him but almost straight away I realised that I really liked him after chatting to him and stuff a few times. I have kissed him three times and after the first time I was really shy around him which has probably come off as not interested (I actually barely spoke to the guy) and then after the second time I did make more of an effort but I'm shy and again I probably came off as not interested AGAIN! This annoys me so much that I come off as not interested and I know it's my own fault. Then I kissed him again in a nightclub and left at the end of the night, I did say goodbye but feel now that I may have given this guy the wrong idea that I'm not interested. I sent him a text after one of the times and he replied but didn't have much to say, it was just a silly message like how are you or something like that and I know that guys hate those kinds of texts and are not much in to texting so it probably wasn't the best idea to text at all. The course has now finished and I don't see him much as we live in different places but I know he will be doing another course that I will be doing too and it starts in 3 weeks!! Now I just can't get this guy off my mind and I think two things, he either thinks I'm not interested and am just being flaky since I ignore him after I kiss him or he's just not interested in me anyways.

I've always been shy around guys and especially ones that I like. I'm nervous about seeing him and wonder if I should just try put him out of my head or could he possibly just think that I'm not interested in him.

I haven't really met any other guys recently and also think that maybe he's on my mind so much as I haven't met anyone else but I really don't think that's it. I would love another chance with him but I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any advice??

D.R Adams

Hello OP,

maybe you could arrange to meet up for a coffee before the next course starts, with you doing the arranging so it tells him your interested. If he responds positively then you'l know he's interested and from there it will be just a matter of you being able to get past the shyness factor with him.

I mean you have kissed the guy 3 times so you can't have been all that shy around him, and he's obviously interested in you so really I don't see any reason for you to be so shy (in your nature I know!!) so maybe just relax and enjoy being in his company.

LegacyUser

D.R Adams wrote: »

Hello OP,

maybe you could arrange to meet up for a coffee before the next course starts, with you doing the arranging so it tells him your interested. If he responds positively then you'l know he's interested and from there it will be just a matter of you being able to get past the shyness factor with him.

I mean you have kissed the guy 3 times so you can't have been all that shy around him, and he's obviously interested in you so really I don't see any reason for you to be so shy (in your nature I know!!) so maybe just relax and enjoy being in his company.

Hi OP again,

I think that is the best thing to do and just ask him for a coffee and see what happens. I just get nervous around him.

I have kissed him three times and I wasn't shy then no, I don't know why I just go to jelly around him but it is in my nature but I guess I'll have to get over it.

I will try and be more relaxed around him and take it as it comes.