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X got engaged

  • 24-01-2012 3:36am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Just found out my X got engaged.

    Was with her for two years up until start of 2010. Shes only just turned 25.

    I'm gutted but happy for her.

    Wonder how long this strange feeling lasts.

    I dont even know what I am feeling.

    I am happy she is happy coz she deserves it, but I am upset but can't exactly explain why.

    Anybody been here?


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  • #2
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    gooner85 wrote: »
    Just found out my X got engaged.

    Was with her for two years up until start of 2010. Shes only just turned 25.

    I'm gutted but happy for her.

    Wonder how long this strange feeling lasts.

    I dont even know what I am feeling.

    I am happy she is happy coz she deserves it, but I am upset but can't exactly explain why.

    Anybody been here?
    You're over thinking things. It's an odd feeling I'm sure, having spent two years of your life with someone and now she's moved on. Whatever about before, this engagement cements the deal in your eyes and you've mixed emotions on this.

    Bear in mind op, that relationships end for a reason. One or the other may not be up to speed with this when it happens, but it's for the best.

    You say you're happy for her, so be just that, and leave the past in the past.


  • #3
    CathyMoran
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,458 ✭✭✭CathyMoran


    It is always strange when they get engaged/married/have children but she is an ex for a reason you have to remember that. I am in contact with two of my ex's and both are friends now but I am glad that I did not marry them as I love my husband and can not imagine being with anyone else.


  • #4
    Stavro Mueller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,673 ✭✭✭Stavro Mueller


    Yes, I've been there. I think punch drunk is the feeling I can best describe it as. I think it didn't help in my case because I was single at the time and feeling a bit lonely. We were well over by that stage and I'd certainly not ever want to get back with my ex. I remember when the shock hit, sitting at home laughing and crying at the same time. Thankfully there was nobody around to witness it lol.


  • #5
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    It is always going to hurt when you see someone you were hoping to reach that finish line with together, go off and reach that finish line before you with someone else. No two ways about it. As others have said though you broke up for a reason, you either wouldn't have made it there at all or you would have otherwise had problems further down the road.


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