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I'm paranoid he will "go off" me...

  • 24-01-2012 2:43am
    #1
    laydy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    Hi folks,I need some help. I been with a guy for 2 years,and I really love him. I know he loves me too,he tells me all the time.and I feel it when we're together,I can see it in the way he looks at me. And he says he wants to marry me,have kids,etc. We have a great relationship,and I trust him. But I have this horrible feeling deep down that I'm not or won't be enough for him for the rest of our lives. He's quite vocal about women he finds attractive,and I guess this has just made me think he wants them more than me,and eventually he'll get bored of me.
    Anyone have feelings like this? Please say I'm not mental!!


Comments

  • #2
    loli1806
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10 ✭loli1806


    Tbh if he didn't want to be with you then hed be gone, the fact Ye are together this long and thinking about the future says to me he is crazy about you. I mean he choose you and wants a future with you, that says a lot. As for feeling not enough, I think all girls at some point feel that, but you've to remember he doesn't see you the way you see you. So you've to tell yourself you are good enough, he fell for you for a reason and is obviously crazy bout you! So chin up you are not mental, you're in love!


  • #3
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    Men admire women.All the time. Even my stepdad will remark at some of the gorgeous women on TV for instance. If you know my stepdad and my mom though, you know they are in a very secure, lasting marriage, and nothing like that would ever happen. It's just not how that pair is made up. I wouldn't worry about it, I highly doubt you have anything to feel insecure about.


  • #4
    laydy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭laydy


    Thanks for that! Even though I know I'm worrying about nothing,it's nice to hear outsider perspectives.


  • #5
    Sleepy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,367 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    From my experience, men only 'go-off' women when the sexual side of the relationship grows stale / dries up entirely; if they utterly let themselves go or when her behaviour changes hugely from what it once was. If you're still as much fun as you were when you got together, you haven't doubled in weight and started spending all day in your pyjamas and you're still having a regular and varied sex life you've nothing to worry about! :)


  • #6
    Saaron
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 614 ✭✭✭Saaron


    Sleepy wrote: »
    From my experience, men only 'go-off' women when the sexual side of the relationship grows stale / dries up entirely; if they utterly let themselves go or when her behaviour changes hugely from what it once was. If you're still as much fun as you were when you got together, you haven't doubled in weight and started spending all day in your pyjamas and you're still having a regular and varied sex life you've nothing to worry about! :)

    Surely the lack of sex shouldn't be a reason to break up if those two people still enjoy each other's company and have feelings for each other?


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