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Finding the one !

  • 24-01-2012 12:43am
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    dave3004
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 621 ✭✭✭


    OK. Where to start?

    Well, I am 26 and have always wanted to find proper love, a soul mate whom my world would evolve around.

    However, the last few years I made a conscious decision to look out for number one while in my twenties, enjoy my life while I am young and do all the relationshippy stuff later as I have the rest of my life to do it.
    Unfortunately, I think "later" has arrived without me even noticing it.

    Over Xmas, I met a girl and got into a DMC with her. She was telling me how she was dying to have kids and settle (at 27). I couldn't comprehend it. I told her I would wait a few more years.

    My current girlfriend knows my attitude towards this. I believe I spawned this attitude from my mother who always told me to try wait before getting married (yes my parents are divorced). So this has probably affected me too.

    So last year, my gf at the time who I lived with, asked to stay De Facto on my visa. I declined and broke her heart.

    Today, I am seeing a girl whom I am not in love with and never will fall in love with. Should I break up with her?

    My father told me recently that I am lucky to have ppl telling me they love and that this should be cherished as you will not have this for long especially as you get older.

    I am still holding out for the soul mate though. That special person. But when does the waiting stop? What if I never find them? Should I settle or go into my elderly years single and lonely. It’s a balancing act !

    The women whom I have been with, I cannot say a bad word about them. They are amazing ppl but just missing something that words cant describe.

    I found out yday that the girl I was with for years before travelling got engaged on her bday the other day.

    So here I am 26, in a relationship with a beautiful girl but alas, not one that will result in marriage.

    Should I stay or should I go?

    I will probably not ever see a more beautiful girl but we're on different levels. She has said the 3 words. I havent.

    I was chatting to 2 of my friends about all this and they said they wanna settle now too. They're 26. They want kids b4 they're 30. Crazy !

    I've reached THAT age and I am fcuking sh!tting it

    Advice or help needed !


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