Wedding

LegacyUser

Hi,
I am getting married in couple of months and about to send invites.

I work with a group of people and have worked with them all for the same length of time. Problem is I cannot invite all of them to my wedding. Would be just too many once including other halfs.

Any idea how to overcome this? Invite all to afters? I defo feel I would have to invite my boss to the whole ceremony but no idea how to deal with this without offending anyone. I know for sure that 2 of them at least definitely expect an invite!

Thanks all!

Beruthiel

I have worked with the same people for 10 years.
I would have liked to have some of them there, however in order to keep costs down and not put any noses out of joint, I did not invite any.
Just because you have worked with people for some time doesn't mean you should feel obliged to have them at your wedding.

Miss Fluff

I've some good friends at work but we're having a small intimate wedding so I'm not inviting any of them

Daisy M

Do you actually want any of them there? I would only invite the people I am close to. Invite the rest to the afters.

Sleepy

I'm going to treat the workmates the same as the cousins: the ones I want at the full day, will get full day invites. The rest will get afters.

If that puts someone's nose out of joint, that's their problem and I won't accept them trying to make it mine.

tinkerbell

Same here. For work colleagues, I'm only inviting a very small few to the full day because I consider them to be good friends. The others then will get an evening invite, including my manager, because I wouldn't be as close to them. Just because you work with people doesn't mean they all have to be part of your wedding day. Like if you were having a few over for dinner to your house some Sat night, who would you invite? Would you invite your boss? That's how I'm deciding on who is getting a full invite.

Also, considering you want to invite a few from work, don't bother with +1s. They all know each other so they can all sit together, no need for +1s.

ongarboy

If you count some workmates as actual friends as opposed to just work colleagues, feel free to invite them. Plenty of people in my workplace invite their mates and not others in the department (ie people they'd meet after work or at weekends etc). None of the rest of us would be put out (unless you had an individual with insecurity issues but that would be their problem). In fact in some cases it's a relief not to be invited to a work acquaintance's wedding (expense/using up annual leave etc).

Chinafoot

confuse11 wrote: »

Hi,
I defo feel I would have to invite my boss to the whole ceremony but no idea how to deal with this without offending anyone. I know for sure that 2 of them at least definitely expect an invite!

Why do you definitely feel your boss must get an invite for the whole day? Because he/she is your boss? Or because he/she is your friend outside of work? If its the latter, fair enough. If its the former, then that's ridiculous. The fact that this person is your boss does not entitle them to a full day invite and you won't be damaging your position at work by giving an invite for the afters.

Who are the two that definitely expect an invite? Are they good friends? Again, of not, give them an invite to the afters. Anyone who feels they're entitled to a full day invite simply because you all work in the same place needs a dose of cop on.

As others have said, if there are people in work you consider your friends invite them to the whole day. Other than that, afters.

John Mason

everyone i work is expecting an invite to the afters but they are not getting one. Well, one person is.

i dont care if their nose is out of joint or not, i dont socialise with these people normally, why would i invited them to one of the biggest days of my life.

ABajaninCork

We just invited my husband's workmates to the afters. Mine were flying in from London, so they were invited to the whole day together with one of my husband's workmates who was a friend.

Nobody minded.