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mixed signals from ex /what to do?

  • 22-01-2012 3:03am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I have an ex who got in contact a while ago out of the blue. We never talked after we finished and have being broken up for quite a while now! Did not Finnish on the best of notes. Met up a few times since for coffee/drinks.


    All's good between us, friendly enough banter. She says she wants to be friends and that is what we're operating under. But when we're out, she sits quite close, playful slaps/pinches, jokes about the "hot" guy across the bar in a way that might be to make me feel jealous? Noticed she puts more then usual effort into her hair and does her lipstick/perfume when we're out. Txts allot during the week as well and asks why I don't have a girlfriend. Maybe i'm reading far too much into that though/projecting what I want to see? Anyone else and id just read the situation as a "GO".

    To be honest she is really good looking and originally I was thinking potential "casual" relationship. But now, I don't know! Best case scenario in that situation would be f'buddies until one of us gets in a relationship again and then we part ways again. A relationship between us would never work again. (Grown up enough to realize that!) So that leaves friends, but i'm sceptical cause while we really do get on, if id still do the horizontal dance then we're not really friends are we?

    I don't love her still or anything and thought id be okay to do the deed without emotional attachment, but then why I am even thinking this through in that case?!

    Maybe i'm totally over thinking this and should just go with the flow and let the chips fall where they may?


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  • #2
    Missy Moo Moo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 238 ✭✭Missy Moo Moo


    So she got in touch with you out of the blue after a messy break up? Maybe she wants to rekindle things or maybe she wants to be friends. Either way, she's not going to get what she wants since you're only looking for a f*ck buddy til you meet someone else.

    I'd leave well alone OP. Nothing against f*ck buddy scenarios but I think it's too hard to transition from proper boyfriend/girlfriend to f*ck buddy. You could stay friends with her, but be honest, do you really see her as a friend? You know you don't.


  • #3
    Missy Moo Moo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 238 ✭✭Missy Moo Moo


    One more thing, I'd say shes just out of a relationship and looking for an ego boost.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Quite possible!

    Well the break up was a mutual decision you could say, never talked again till she got in contact. Was a few hurt feelings all round.

    Am I reading too much into it then?

    I kind of figure I may just lay my cards out and see what happens. Can't go too far wrong being honest?!

    Maybe it's a guy thing (or immaturity!) but I can't see the logic in contacting an ex out of the blue, except if your looking for an ego boost/sex/2nd chance. I doubt she was feeling retrospective guilt all of a sudden either!


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