What a Waste

LegacyUser

I recently met this woman , who in my eyes is God's gift to men. She's clever, totally beautiful, incredibly funny and witty, and just really really nice and down to earth. Anyway, she's single. She was married, and will be divorced, and she has children. She looks only thirty at a push, but she's mid thirties. I asked her how come she's single, and even though she has been out on dates, she said it's the fact that she has kids that it's really hard to find someone who suits. One of her children has special needs and she said this was a major issue.
What I want to know is what other guys think. I'd love to get involved with her, but I don't know if it would be too difficult. I already know she's one in a million, but maybe the whole logistics would be too hard!
Advice please !!
Thanks.

Otis Driftwood

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LegacyUser

Your thread is called 'What a Waste'. That, and your remarks that she doesn't look 'mid thirties', leads me to believe that you're an extremely immature twenty something who defines a good looking woman with a special needs child as a 'waste'.

Do her and her children a favour and leave them be!

nowyouresix

If I were you I'd think long and hard about it. I'd suggest that you get to know her on her own. Don't try to get involved with the kids until you are really sure she is the one for you. I'd say take it really really slowly.
Good luck.

gateways

gateways wrote: »

I recently met this woman , who in my eyes is God's gift to men. She's clever, totally beautiful, incredibly funny and witty, and just really really nice and down to earth. Anyway, she's single. She was married, and will be divorced, and she has children. She looks only thirty at a push, but she's mid thirties. I asked her how come she's single, and even though she has been out on dates, she said it's the fact that she has kids that it's really hard to find someone who suits. One of her children has special needs and she said this was a major issue.
What I want to know is what other guys think. I'd love to get involved with her, but I don't know if it would be too difficult. I already know she's one in a million, but maybe the whole logistics would be too hard!
Advice please !!
Thanks.

if you genuinely like her and feel that the fact she has kids, wont be a barrier then go for it. only you really know at the end of the day if you feel strong enough about her to start a relationship. Sure perhaps its a risk but would you regret more not taking the risk or taking it?

As for considering her Gods gift to men, while im sure she has alot of qualities you admire, its never a good idea to put any woman (or for a woman to put a man) on such a pedestal. She is only human at the end of the day and every human being has the equal capacity to let you down as much as they have the capacity to bring joy and elation to your life.

Missy Moo Moo

Hi OP,

In my experience, some guys do a runner when they meet women with kids so its probably difficult for her, especially as the kids are always going to be first priority and having to get babysitters and such like, it reduces the potential for spontaneity etc.

If you are serious about her, and you go into it with your eyes open, then its only as hard as you make it. Its becoming increasingly common nowadays, a good few of my friends are in similar situations. You'll have to take it slowly, don't try and meet her kids straightaway, she'll suggest that when shes good and ready. Don't become frustrated when you want to go on a date on a whim and she can't get a babysitter. Be aware that dates will take a lot of advance planning.

Just for the record- Does she actually want anything? If shes going through a divorce, it could be a painful time for her. Talk to her.

LegacyUser

I didn't mean anything bad by saying about her looking young or by the name on the thread. Opposite really. I spoke to her earlier, asked her if she would be interested in seeing me. She said we could be friends at most because her priorities are her children. She did say that she gets lonely for adult company, but at this stage she doesn't want to confuse her children by getting into a proper relationship. I put my foot in it by asking if friends with benefits was out of the question. She laughed it off but she said she couldn't do that either she's not able to do that without a proper relationship. I respect her for it. It's just made me want her more now. Maybe in a few years. She really is one in a million.