Go on the pill?

CaoimheCweeva

I'm 18, and I really want to go on the pill

- I'm not having sex yet but I might be soon, and I have such a fear of the condom breaking. I live in the country so to get to my doctor I would have to get a lift from my mam. I really don't want to say it to her .. she'll just think that I AM having sex, and even if I was it's not something I'd want her to know.

Morag

Can you not get a lift to go shopping and then make your own way to the drs appointment?

LegacyUser

Make a little white lie, I did that with my mam. I told her my cycles were very heavy and the cramping was bad. She suggested the pill to regulate it

LegacyUser

Yep, as the poster above said, tell your mam that you want to go on the pill to make your periods easier, or if you have bad skin (I was put on a particular pill for bad skin when I was a teen). You're 18, she will understand that you're maturing sexually anyway!

blue skye

Altough I completly agree with you going on the pill - it still dosen't protect against STI's!! Have a think first!

Neyite

I went in with the 'heavy periods' reason to my mother, I had fainted once with pain and also my sister used to get anemic so she was grand about it. Told the doc I wanted the pill, and discussed it.

Told her that doc had prescribed the pill to regulate and lighten periods. Mam totally bought it because she had been put on it herself to sort out her cycle after one of us was born. She did do the whole "now thats no excuse to go off shagging" which I respectfully listened to, and assured her that I wouldnt. All grand. I was 16.

MissFlitworth

You don't have to go to your own doctor, if you don't fancy talking about this to your mam you could organise a 'shopping' trip into your nearest town with a well woman or a family planning clinic.

MagicSean

Why exactly do you have to tell her you're going to the doctor for the pill? Can you not just make something else up?

kylith

Do you have a friend or sympathetic relative that could give you a lift? Obviously I don't know where you're living, but would a bike be out of the question, or a bus?

christina_x

Are you 100% sure your mum would react badly to you going on the pill?
I'm sure she is expecting this day to come, and it shows you are being responsible about it.
My parents suggested the pill to me when I moved away for college. They trust me and know that I don't go sleeping around, but they also know that these things can happen, and didn't want me to get in a situation I may not be able to handle.

rotti oRiley

Do the shopping trip excuse or make up something to go to gp about. If you're in a relationship I'II bet your mam is wondering about the same thing.

It's great you want to be responsible about contraception, but remember, only a condom will offfer protection against STIs.

Ironically, chlamydia can leave you infertile and is symtomless so you wouldn't even know you have it.

Princess Peach

I think the period excuse is a good one, so common for girls. Do you do any sports? Thats an easy way to say you want to control them more with the pill and skip a month if you had a match or something. But bad PMS is a good reason too.

And that way your mam will know. If you went by yourself and didn't tell her and she finds out it will only make things worse cause she will want to know why you were hiding it! Then she will for sure know you are having sex.

saa

You are both adults, you have been legal for more than a year now and you have been using condoms, there is nothing your mother should be unhappy about but I still understand why you just don't want the idea of sex brought into it.

I would not avoid the pill in case your mother thinks you're having sex, go with the heavy period route. I know that still might be awkward, you don't have to give her a reason for going to the doctor but if she asks..

My god I remember being 18, been living on my own for two years and came home my mother looked through my bag found pills, threw them away and called me a slut.. and this was only 2009, going on the pill is still a big issue to some people.