Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

Confused and sad

  • 20-01-2012 8:27am
    #1
    unhappy holly
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12 ✭


    Hi all, maybe some can give me some advice please? So my ex and I have split after 4 years (split just before xmas) and he asked for there to be no contact for a while so we could have some space. I agreed and I found out he's started seeing someone else (a friend from when we were together). All of that's fine but I asked him to return my things and his replies were so cruel and hurtful. I can't undertand why he's being like this. I thought we could be friends but it's like he hates me all of a sudden and wants nothing to do with me. I just can't understand why. It's as if he's become a completely different person overnight. Any thoughts?


Comments

  • #2
    Missy Moo Moo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 238 ✭✭Missy Moo Moo


    :-(

    Sorry to hear that OP, you poor thing.

    Your ex sounds weak and spineless, he didn't give you the real reason why he split up with you, started seeing someone so soon after and now is being mean to you. It sounds like you have handled this well, you haven't flown off the handle when you heard he met someone else so you don't deserve him being mean to you.

    I'm sorry to say that its possible he hasn't just changed overnight, that these have been his true colours. Or else hes so emotionally stunted, that this is the only way he knows how to handle these kind of situations. The important thing is not why hes being like this, whats important is that he is being this way.

    About these things, can you live without them? If you can, let them go. Don't give him any reason to think you might be clinging on to excuses for contact. If you can't let them go, send a calm, rational, neutral email saying you'd appreciate your things back. If he replies cruelly, do not engage in any slagging or mud throwing or do not try and question him on why he is being like this, just calmly re-iterate your need to have your things back.

    You shouldn't be jealous of his new GF either. Always remember that if hes able to do what he did to you and treat you badly in the aftermath of the break up, then he is more than capable of doing the same to her. Not wishing bad on her, but just be thankful you're free of him. You're lucky now, though it may not seem this way right now, it will in time.

    Chin up OP and look after yourself


  • #3
    unhappy holly
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12 ✭unhappy holly


    Thanks for the advice feeling a bit better about it and have decided not to let his attitude or behaviour get to me.


  • #4
    Missy Moo Moo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 238 ✭✭Missy Moo Moo


    unhappy holly wrote: »
    Thanks for the advice feeling a bit better about it and have decided not to let his attitude or behaviour get to me.

    Great! Glad to hear you're feeling better. Onwards and upwards OP!:)


Advertisement