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Confused and Need some Advice.

  • 16-01-2012 5:38pm
    #1
    Tadaa!
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    Hi,

    I'm writing this not only to get it off my chest but to see if anyone else has been in the same situation and maybe help me out a bit.

    I met my girlfriend (she was 20, I was 19) at the start of 2009. We hit it off right away, I fell for her and she fell for me etc. A few dates in, she did mention that she had a 1-year old daughter and really I was kinda ok about that. I did like her alot so I thought "hey, i will put in the effort for her" and we went on with the relationship.

    I wasn't introduced to the child properly until 6 - 8 months down the line, just incase things between us did not work out, but they did and brilliantly (Completely in love as this stage).
    When I did start seeing her more I felt like I had no problems taking care of her and she liked me alot!

    But as I've gotten more involved with the child and now that shes getting older, I find myself less and less enthusiastic about the whole relationship. I find myself unable to deal with situations that parents would deal with and I can get very stressed out because of it. Sometimes I can, most times I cant. I have told her that I dont think I'm anyway near parental material and she just keeps on saying it will come to me or it takes time.



    I'm still madly in love with my girlfriend and I love her daughter, but this situation.. I'm not so in love with. We still get on great but are arguing more since the child has came into the equation. But our relationship together is not the problem.
    I don't feel like I'm ready to become a father/step father. It's too much responsibility for my young, weak shoulders to handle but I also feel like I cannot get out of this relationship. My girlfriend relies on me so much, I fear the worst if I do break up with her (a very emotional person).
    She will take it so badly and I don't want to do that to the girl I love so much.

    I'm really confused and don't know what to do, so I'm hoping someone here as being in the same situation

    Thanks for reading


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