Staring in gyms and changing rooms?

outtait

I'm a member of Crunch and wanted to get some feedback and stories from others who might experience similar situations. While working out, do you ever get looked at by guys who appear overtly 'straight'? Obviously, looking at other people is completely normal - that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about when you finish a set, you look around and realise a guy's staring at you. Then you walk to get a dumbbell and you catch each others' eye far too often. Does this happen to you?

Now that sexual orientation is slowly becoming less of a stigma, it's coming to light what a wide spectrum of sexual preference there really is besides simply straight, gay, and bi. Perhaps these gym/changing room encounters are a manifestation of this?

Conor30

If it's Crunch in Temple Bar you attend, I've heard that place is a hotbed of gay hormones!
Also the gym in Smithfield is also gay central, apparently!! It stands to reason, as the city centre (and Dublin in general) would have a disproportionate amount of gayers!)

I've never been in there myself, but gyms seems like the perfect place to pick up a hot guy! I'm joining a gym this week and hope to flirt with some guys!;)

cgcsb

outtait wrote: »

it's coming to light what a wide spectrum of sexual preference there really is besides simply straight, gay, and bi.

what does that mean? what spectrum? if you are a man who likes other men, you are either gay or bisexual. What else is there?

floggg

outtait wrote: »

While working out, do you ever get looked at by guys who appear overtly 'straight'?

Lol, we all don't wear glitter and frilly pink shirts. We generally blend in fairly easily.

No, can't say I have in particular. Sometimes you are just in somebody's line of sight and there's nothing more to it.

Though again I have heard crunch temple bar is the place to go for a bit of locker room cruising so maybe it's a bit more flagrant there.

oisindoyle

outtait wrote: »

I'm a member of Crunch and wanted to get some feedback and stories from others who might experience similar situations. While working out, do you ever get looked at by guys who appear overtly 'straight'? Obviously, looking at other people is completely normal - that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about when you finish a set, you look around and realise a guy's staring at you. Then you walk to get a dumbbell and you catch each others' eye far too often. Does this happen to you?

Now that sexual orientation is slowly becoming less of a stigma, it's coming to light what a wide spectrum of sexual preference there really is besides simply straight, gay, and bi. Perhaps these gym/changing room encounters are a manifestation of this?

How do you know they are looking if you are not looking also !!!

Slang_Tang

Straight guys will generally stare in gym changing rooms at anyone who's more endowed than they are.

Barna77

Well, a couple of months ago I was out and about in certain club in George St.... anyway, I literally bumped into a guy from my gym. Didn't surprise me to find him there, I was fairly sure he was gay. After that, we've coincided a couple of times in the gym, and I'd say he's been showing off around me ever since hahaha

I don't care anymore about the eye candy around the place.

Now there's this other guy, I've noticed him looking at me some times any day I'm there. And I'd be very happy if I met him out in gaytown, and if he were single and ready to mingle

Here's to wishful thinking

baby and crumble

floggg wrote: »

Lol, we all don't wear glitter and frilly pink shirts. We generally blend in fairly easily.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T55ArHjeR1c

LegacyUser

Hey, i am also a member in crunch, in the changing rooms a nice ass is hard not to look at, along with a good package, never had any luck meeting a guy tho!

cgcsb

I'm still waiting for an explanation as to how a man fancying another man can be anything other than gay or bisexual.

floggg

Research points to sexuality as being a spectrum rather than rigid categories. So you can have somebody who is 90% straight but could be considered 10% gay/bisexual.

In that instance the person would identify as straight as the same sex attraction is negligible.

Very few people have been found to be exclusively straight or gay by these researchers.

Its not really accurate or fair to classify somebody with only a minimum same sex attraction as "bi".

Other research has shown that in some tribal societies people went through "gay" phases whereby young men routinrly enter into gay relationships, before then leaving them on attaining full "manhood" and entering "straight" relationships.

Again, the classifications gay straight and bi don't accurately affect their orientation.

KTRIC

Just seen this thread on the main page and thought I'd chip in. From a straight guys point of view I'd often find myself checking out the other guys in the changing rooms and gym floor. Not their tackle mind you but build, physique etc. , more in admiration than anything else. Keep that in mind as well

cgcsb

floggg wrote: »

Research points to sexuality as being a spectrum rather than rigid categories. So you can have somebody who is 90% straight but could be considered 10% gay/bisexual.

In that instance the person would identify as straight as the same sex attraction is negligible.

Very few people have been found to be exclusively straight or gay by these researchers.

Its not really accurate or fair to classify somebody with only a minimum same sex attraction as "bi".

Other research has shown that in some tribal societies people went through "gay" phases whereby young men routinrly enter into gay relationships, before then leaving them on attaining full "manhood" and entering "straight" relationships.

Again, the classifications gay straight and bi don't accurately affect their orientation.

I understand that, what I don't understand is why the OP thought that a man checking him out was indicative of this alleged spectrum.

Nyan Cat

People check people out of either sex to eg:
See how they themselves compare
See how their belly/ ar'e/ boobs/ package/ muscles etc compare
Because they admire or appreciate how you look
Because they think you have great hair or butt etc
Jealousy (over their looks or toned bod)
Because you have the actual body the other aspires to and it's hard to look away
Maybe you have real room presence and people just notice you easily
Because they do fancy you

And so on.

Only one of the reasons above is To do with fancying. There are many reasons. I don't fancy men but I can appreciate a fine as$ when I see one

jaffacakesyum

I WISH I had girls checking me out in the gym haha. There are some hotties that go to my gym but I'm guessing all straight. I don't exactly look my finest when working out anyway That's my excuse and I'm sticking to it :pac:

L.Jenkins

Doesnt always have to be the gym. I was out with the Reserve Defence Forces on an 8km walk to fill up numbers for operation transformation and all that craic. One of the few girls we have in our unit came with us and I must say, she looks rather well in sports gear.

Now Im just being pervy, but yeah staring at girls in the gym without getting caught can get alittle tricky :P

outtait

cgcsb wrote: »

I understand that, what I don't understand is why the OP thought that a man checking him out was indicative of this alleged spectrum.

I originally said: "guys who appear overtly 'straight'" I'm stereotyping but in my experience, they're usually accurate. Therefore, the fact that an apparent straight person is staring at me might suggest some mild attraction and thus might shift them across the spectrum in my view. I'm aware that it's normal to 'admire' another's physique but I'm not amazing so I don't think the consistent and repeated stares I'm talking about are because of this.

Also, I'm talking about UCD and Dun L. Yes, Temple Bar is most certainly a gay 'hot bed' ha!

Barna77

KTRIC wrote: »

Just seen this thread on the main page and thought I'd chip in. From a straight guys point of view I'd often find myself checking out the other guys in the changing rooms and gym floor. Not their tackle mind you but build, physique etc. , more in admiration than anything else. Keep that in mind as well

Agreed. For me it's a sort of a challenge, look at them and set the goal of maybe one day look like them. Not that I ever will.....

baby and crumble

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

I WISH I had girls checking me out in the gym haha. There are some hotties that go to my gym but I'm guessing all straight. I don't exactly look my finest when working out anyway That's my excuse and I'm sticking to it :pac:

Yeah, does anyone look good after a workout???? Or even during, I don't know of any...