Girl In College

LegacyUser

Hello,

I know this girl in college, she's in a few of my lectures (3 a week to be precise).

I was thinking of asking her out but don't know how to go about it.

Problem is anytime I see her around college she's with friends, only time she's alone is when I see her at the train station.

I've rarely spoken to her so I'm quite confident I'm not in the friendzone. But whenever I see her she is really nice, gave me a hug when she saw me end of a night out a few weeks back etc.

So I was thinking would it be awkward if one day when I saw her at the train station, just asked if she wanted to go to the cinema with me and then exchanged numbers? I know I should start a conversation with her first so it doesn't seem weird to say it out of the blue, but truth is I have no clue what to start talking to her about.

Also any advice on flirting? I've never done this before with girls and am quite inexperienced but I know from people who've done it that this is the right way to stimulate a girl's interest in you.

Advice appreciated, thanks.

Ramza

college__student wrote: »

Hello,

I know this girl in college, she's in a few of my lectures (3 a week to be precise).

I was thinking of asking her out but don't know how to go about it.

Problem is anytime I see her around college she's with friends, only time she's alone is when I see her at the train station.

I've rarely spoken to her so I'm quite confident I'm not in the friendzone. But whenever I see her she is really nice, gave me a hug when she saw me end of a night out a few weeks back etc.

So I was thinking would it be awkward if one day when I saw her at the train station, just asked if she wanted to go to the cinema with me and then exchanged numbers? I know I should start a conversation with her first so it doesn't seem weird to say it out of the blue, but truth is I have no clue what to start talking to her about.

Also any advice on flirting? I've never done this before with girls and am quite inexperienced but I know from people who've done it that this is the right way to stimulate a girl's interest in you.

Advice appreciated, thanks.

You only see her three days a week and don't know her too well so if she says no you really have nothing to lose

She seems to be comfortable around you so no harm in asking. And I don't think it's weird at all. For conversation starters just be yourself! Ask how college was, how her weekend was, any plans, etc. I'd advise if you want to bring her to the cinema you bring up this new movie you really wanna see, and tell her she should come. I like this approach rather than "would you like to" as it is more straightforward and stuff, and portrays confidence imo.

Ironmaiden11

Figure out if she's "out of your league" - maybe ask a friend. She might just be looking for attention when she's friendly with you... As young women do frequently.
Hard for us to give advice as we don't know what are your chances...

LegacyUser

I wouldn't ask just out of the blue, I was at least try talk to her for a bit first, at least a couple of times but do ask her out early on. In my opinion, she is unlikely to go out with you straight out of the blue unless she has being checking you out first.

Good luck.

LegacyUser

Hey all,

Firstly thanks so much for the replies.

Ramza I think I'll take your advice. I'm not sure what films are in the cinema right now I'd like to see but I will check and see if there's anything that interests me.

If so I will pop the question to her next time I see her (hopefully not in a group).

And I think she is comfortable with me, I was out with her and her friends one of the nights the week we started college. I know I'm not in the friendzone because that was just one night and any other time I've just not hard the confidence to approach her.

So I'll inititate conversation when I see her next, pop the cinema question and if she turns me down hey there's always plenty more fish in the sea. I don't mind really if I'm shot down, I've dealt with it before, not the worst thing ever.

Anyone any advice on flirting? I'm still worried that awkward moment will come when I'm trying to flirt and don't know how to/ am trying too hard etc.

Jordo141

Deffo go for it! For someone you don't see too often for them to openly hug you says to me that they care somewhat for you!

Iconwine

Facebook might be a way to get it going, start chatting to her on chat or write on her wall just to break into the "friendzone" as you call it! Then once u have done that and talked to her a few more times it wont seem as random asking her out. TBh most girls would be chuffed to be asked out off the cuff, good luck

Overheal

college__student wrote: »

Anyone any advice on flirting? I'm still worried that awkward moment will come when I'm trying to flirt and don't know how to/ am trying too hard etc.

Flirting is such a poor concept. You can always try just talking to her. Doesn't have to be shyte like "The sun really brings out the color of your eyes"

LegacyUser

Thanks all, I'm friends with her on facebook but I won't be using it to "chat" to her. Reason being is that I never inititate conversation with anyone on facebook, its so awkward just sitting there they write "brb" and never come back to you. Its not my thing, prefer face-to-face interaction where you can see a person's emotions rather than look at words they typed on a screen.

Also I'm not trying to break into the friendzone, rather to avoid it. I never want to make that mistake again of having a girl only see me as a friend unless that was her feelings initially.

Overheal I take your advice on flirting. Don't think I would go down that line, not really into cheesy sayings like you just mentioned, prefer to say something that will make her know I'm interested, then again she might just guess I'm interested in her if I ask her out anyway.

Still looking at movies, I'm back to college the following monday so hopefully will ask her out quite quick after initiating conversation then.