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Splitting after 13 years

  • 14-01-2012 7:35pm
    #1
    macisback
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  • #2
    MagicSean
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,897 ✭✭✭MagicSean


    Have you actually spoken to your husband about this? Have you considered counselling? Individual and group counselling. I think the worst thing you can do in a situation like this is an affair. It leads to so many complications and can turn your children and family against you. I've seen it happen. If you really don't think you can make your marriage work then seperate, even if only for a trial period. But for gods sake talk to the man first. I'm sure he deserves that.


  • #3
    Chinafoot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,894 ✭✭✭Chinafoot


    macisback wrote: »
    The only option for splitting is to go down the dole office and look for support and I really can't do that, I want my business to succeed and if I can I want us to split up and remain friends for life.

    If you have no intention of going to social welfare for help or putting this business venture on the back-burner until you can be in a more financially independent position, what do you expect people to say to you here? You don't want to be in the position you are in but you don't want to make any of the painful but necessary actions to change your situation. Nobody here can give you a magic solution to all your problems.

    You're in a marriage with a man that you knew wasn't going to work within the first 6 months. You're not happy and this is going to affect your children - please don't kid yourself that it won't. Kids aren't stupid.

    What do you want to happen?


  • #4
    macisback
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭macisback


    I suppose what I want and what I can have are two different things. I wasn't looking for solutions, I was sounding off and I shouldn't have. Thank you to anyone who took the time to reply. Just to make the point its not about financial independence I've always had that, he is the one who would suffer, I am trying to make it so that he won't.


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