married man having an affair with my little sister

LegacyUser

Hi lads I recently found out my little sister who turned 17 there 2 weeks ago has been having an affair with a married man aged 35 who is a business man where we live always in the papers just been married and has a child last year. Im absolutelty disgusted and furious about what to do , found out through her leaving her facebook page open , . When i rang and confronted him about it he denied it etc ... then remarked let me drive up to your house to explain and me commenting am how do u know where my house is anyways .

my little sister said its been going on for the last few months and she said she stopped talking to him a few weeks ago as he was pushing her to do prostitution !! I am so angered and annoyed he has been writing to her since my family found out saying its your fault i ll loose my family etc over you , you should die. My little sister doesnt stop crying since I really think he has been grooming her he used to pick her up outside from school and things

Can anyone give advice what to do ? should i tell his wife , report him to the gardai statutory rape and that?

Lollipops23

OP you need to report this man to the guards. Apart from sex with a minor, he's no harassing her and threatening her. If it's true about him pushing her into prostitution then that's even more ammo.

Let the law handle this.

greenprincess

Were they having the affair before she turned 17? Because if they were thats illegal. I am not saying you sister is lying, but I wouldnt go saying to the guards that he was pushing her into prostitution without proof that is a very serious alligation. She may just be tryin to make sure she doesnt get in trouble.

dory

You need to go to the guards. Grooming young girls for this is common and getting worse (from what I've heard - used to work in this area). Please report him for the good of the next schoolgirl he'll prey on.

i wouldnt be so quick to go to the guards to be honest, your sister is still very young and in my experience, people will lie to get themselves out of trouble.

how exactly was he pushing her into prostitution? you need to get the full facts first before going to the law.

as for him picking her up from school, surely other people must have seen this going on?
where did they go? how did he meet her etc?

you need to get full details first.

obviously, keep her away from him, completely.

once you get facts from her, maybe you should confront him, i would, see wot he says.
i would also tell my parents if i was you

thefeatheredcat

I gather your parents know about this and honestly, your parents, sister and yourself should seek advice from the Gardai. Take the letters he has sent along with you, especially if they are anyway along the lines of threats.

If your sister previously had a connection to him on facebook, have they been using this to communicate? It is worth noting that there are sites like profile engine that archive facebook data even deleted information like friends.

The best way is not to have any sort of contact whatsoever with this man and no confrontations. If you contact the Gardai, let everything be dealt with through them.

While I don't doubt your sister, there are two sides to every side and he is entitled to keep his reputation as what is being insinuated could be highly damaging if it should be proven to be untrue.

I would go to the Gardai about it anyway, regardless of any sort of innocent relationship/friendship a 35 year old man is having with a 16/17 year old teenager, that has direct contact to her, especially if there is no common activity or friend to connect them to eachother.

Sleepy

You need to have a long chat with your sister about this. Explain to her how wrong it is for her to be sleeping with a married man and for him to be sleeping with anyone else, never mind someone young enough to be his daughter. If this isn't a chat that you could have based on your current relationship, find someone that she can talk to (a girlfriend, aunt, cousin etc.) and let her know you're "on her side". At 17, you need to make sure any actions you take here don't turn it into a "no one understands except for him" situation where she'll turn back towards him rather than to healthier options.

LegacyUser

Hi thanks for the replies , I do not doubt my sister in any way she is a very quiet girl who is not lying as we went to the police with my family and have found out this guy was sacked from being the under 16 girls football manager as he tried it on with aproximately 6 girls aged between 14-16 getting them drink , trying to coerce them into sex with drink and money few months ago the gardai said and so did the clubs owner. My little sister is not your average binge drinking swearing youth .

either way this man is a serial sex fiend

gerryk

You need to bring this to the attention of the authorities. If not for the sake of your sister, then for the other young girls he has preyed upon, and, it seems, will do again.

I'm not one for jumping to conclusions, and would be in favour of due process, by and large, but let the guards know of the situation, and let them determine the proper legal course of action.

Also, talk to your sister. Try to get her to see that this isn't a healthy relationship for her to be involved in.

Emme

Idontwanttotellmyname wrote: »

Hi thanks for the replies , I do not doubt my sister in any way she is a very quiet girl who is not lying as we went to the police with my family and have found out this guy was sacked from being the under 16 girls football manager as he tried it on with aproximately 6 girls aged between 14-16 getting them drink , trying to coerce them into sex with drink and money few months ago the gardai said and so did the clubs owner. My little sister is not your average binge drinking swearing youth .

either way this man is a serial sex fiend

Well done for going to the Gardai. This man (paedophile) will have to be kept away from schools etc. to stop him from grooming other young girls.

The main thing is for you and the family to protect your sister and she shouldn't have ANY more contact with him again. Block him from her email and facebook.

gerryk

Sorry... didn't spot that you have been to the gardai. This was the right thing to do.

davet82

Thats a shocking story, I hope justice is done and others are protected from this predator...


Seeing that it is now a legal matter maybe this post should be locked now?

Ickle Magoo

davet82, as the mods don't/can't read every post, if you ever need to draw a thread or post to the attention of a mod for locking or action you can PM or use the report function (triangle with exclamation mark at the bottom left of posts). :cool:

OP,

As you've resolved this issue as far as you can via this forum, I'll lock the thread.

Best of luck.