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LegacyUser

Hi,

I would greatly appreciate some advice. I met a guy that I really like and over a few months have kissed him a couple of times. I made initial contact after to which I received a reply but a very short one. My message was also short. Is it worth making contact again or is he just not interested?

Men are hard to figure out through messages even when they seem interested in person.

Like him alot and would just like to see what people think. I can give more detail if needed.

Thanks alot

LegacyUser

thisismeagain wrote: »

Hi,

I would greatly appreciate some advice. I met a guy that I really like and over a few months have kissed him a couple of times. I made initial contact after to which I received a reply but a very short one. My message was also short. Is it worth making contact again or is he just not interested?

Men are hard to figure out through messages even when they seem interested in person.

Like him alot and would just like to see what people think. I can give more detail if needed.

Thanks alot

text him, short reply then no reply = not interested.

I'm sorry it took me 7 years to understand that, no matter how much YOU like him if he liked you during the course of those months with your number he would have at least texted you so I don't think its one of those too scared to take it further scenarios. And I think there isn't enough interaction to say its him playing hard to get, and frankly he hasn't been treating you very well it seems like he doesn't want to text you so going out with him wouldn't that great judging by the effort he has put in.

Just get busy doing things for you and guys will come, I swear once you forget about looking, desperate to get your number, thinking about when to text you, playing hard to get, flirting, meeting up, more flirting IRL thats what you deserve.

LegacyUser

thanks for your reply nococonotactl.

i forgot to say that we also live in different places, i'm from donegal and he's from kerry. i know for a fact that he is not much of a texter. probably pulling at strings here but it just seems like such a waste when he seemed to like me when we were together.

Ickle Magoo

Who doesn't seem to like someone else when with them, getting to know them or possibly after something? I'm not sure that's a good benchmark in terms of relationship potential.

Generally, if someone is interested in having a relationship or ensuring you don't get into a relationship with someone else they will make that clear, even if subtly...if they are disinterested, non-communicative and don't ever make the first move then I'd assume they just aren't that interested and move on.

All the best. :cool:

LegacyUser

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Who doesn't seem to like someone else when with them, getting to know them or possibly after something? I'm not sure that's a good benchmark in terms of relationship potential.

Generally, if someone is interested in having a relationship or ensuring you don't get into a relationship with someone else they will make that clear, even if subtly...if they are disinterested, non-communicative and don't ever make the first move then I'd assume they just aren't that interested and move on.

All the best. :cool:

Thanks for your reply.

That is very true in terms of it not being a very good benchmark.

There is more to it than what I've said but I definitely get what you are saying, if someone is interested generally they will let you know. I just think that sometimes you need to give people the benefit of the doubt in that not everyone is the same with regard to texting and contact but I do accept what you are saying. I guess you can't make someone want to contact you and I've done all I can do really.

I came on to ask for advice as I've sought advice from friends who are divided on the matter so thank you for your replies.

Beruthiel

thisismeagain wrote: »

I would greatly appreciate some advice. I met a guy that I really like and over a few months have kissed him a couple of times. I made initial contact after to which I received a reply but a very short one. My message was also short. Is it worth making contact again or is he just not interested?

A man who is interested does not faff around for a few months. He would make it obvious.
Move on and forget about him.