Not sure what I want with girl

astonaidan

Ok so theres this girl in the hostel I live with who I enjoy talking to, The thing is she isnt my usual type of girl, Like shes pretty but not tall or blond, Everytime she sees me shes always smiling at me, Today she asked me what I was doing tonight and being the party animal I am,I said having an early night, I asked her her plans and she said she wanted to go out and do something, this happens everytime I meet her, the lads with me told me everytime she gives me a chance to ask her out but i dont, Ive never really asked a girl out on a date before so havent a clue what to do tbh, so any advice appreciated

fluffybiscuits

astonaidan wrote: »

Ok so theres this girl in the hostel I live with who I enjoy talking to, The thing is she isnt my usual type of girl, Like shes pretty but not tall or blond, Everytime she sees me shes always smiling at me, Today she asked me what I was doing tonight and being the party animal I am,I said having an early night, I asked her her plans and she said she wanted to go out and do something, this happens everytime I meet her, the lads with me told me everytime she gives me a chance to ask her out but i dont, Ive never really asked a girl out on a date before so havent a clue what to do tbh, so any advice appreciated

Well why not ask her out? Have a look at the local listings or perhaps a coffee and a stroll in the park. Its the getting to know one and other stage Good luck

LegacyUser

not tall and blonde is just a euphemism for not skinny :pac:

Okay okay she is short and brunette, keep the lads away
treat her well, it sounds like you want to do the nice guy thing
but why are you afraid

astonaidan

Well lads I think I fecked it up, She came and sat down beside me at dinner, I acted like I always do talked to her for an hour, She kept saying she was going out to meet friends but kept putting it off, after like another half an hour she said she had to go and left I got the impression I had done something to annoy her, Seen her today with her friends got a smile as she was leaving.
I was told by another girl why she got annoyed is because she wanted me to ask her to go somewhere instead of with her friends, I just didnt pick up on it

To the short and brunette comment shes like 5 6 so not sure if thats short and she is skinny, My comment about her not being my usual type is that she seems to be as reserved layed back as me, Usually girls ask me out hence why Im struggling

gerryk

astonaidan wrote: »

She kept saying she was going out to meet friends but kept putting it off, after like another half an hour she said she had to go and left I got the impression I had done something to annoy her
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I was told by another girl why she got annoyed is because she wanted me to ask her to go somewhere instead of with her friends, I just didnt pick up on it

So even though you knew prior to this that her continual comments on 'going out to do something' were a blatant opening for you to ask her out, and having this confirmed by your friends and people on here, you still missed your opportunity, permanently, by the looks of things.

Next time... don't think about it, don't get hung up on 'your type' and other irrelevant details, don't stall, just ask the girl out already.

msg11

OP, just ask her if she would like to hang out sometime.

So in conversation..

"Yeah, just wondering if you wanted to head out one of the nights for a few hours?"

"Doing what?" She might ask

"(insert something you think would be nice to do together), it's ok if you don't want to! " Too take away the pressure or an awkward silence

Something along them lines..

fluffybiscuits

Just bite the poxy bullet and ask her out, it cant be that hard now you know ! Good luck!