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Define a 'casual' relationship for me

  • 08-01-2012 6:58pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi everyone. Here’s the situation I’m in at the moment.

    There’s this girl I met a few months ago. We got on really well, to the point of facebook chatting and texting each other every day was the norm because we only had an excuse to see each other once a week. All was going well and eventually one night we both figured out how much we like each other. The only problem was this was the day before we both went our separate ways for a 3 week Christmas break, and then on top of that she said she wasn’t looking for anything serious - she only just got out of a bad break-up a few months earlier and wasn’t looking for a big commitment, just keep things ‘casual’ instead. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t disappointed with this as I’m more of a relationship guy then just flings, but I do really like her and I’ve never tried it before so I said no problem to it.

    But then the weird thing was she started texting and calling me even more over Christmas, more so then some of my previous girlfriends have in the past. We’ve now been back in college since Tuesday and we’ve met up pretty much every day since, mostly just hanging out at her house watching movies and staying over a few times as well. And she's nearly always the one that'll ask me over first.

    Is it wrong to be confused by all this? A part of me thinks I shouldn’t worry, I’ve met a great girl who obviously really likes me too. I just can’t help think the longer we keep going like this the more I’m going to want something more - even in the last week she’s been the only thing on my mind as I’ve grown to like her so much. I’m just afraid there’ll come a time she’ll openly go meet other guys since we’re not in an official relationship, and that definitely wouldn’t sit easy with me. I don’t think she knows I’m starting to feel this way, but I’m afraid to bring it up in case I scare her away and royally mess everything up, if you get me.

    Any thoughts?


Comments

  • #2
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Sounds like she may have missed you over Christmas. Why don't you have a chat about it again with her? While it's fair enough not wanting to jump into anything after a bad relationship, you haven't put any pressure on her so after a few months you deserve to know what's going on and where you stand...


  • #3
    greenprincess
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 309 ✭✭greenprincess


    Things can change, you say its been a few months. Maybe talk to her say that you feel things have progressed into something more serious and maybe ye could become exclusive


  • #4
    miss dublin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7 ✭miss dublin


    she didnt want anything too serious only coming out of a relationship...but then there was the break and it sounds she missed u over that time...i think she may want more but maybe has some issues from the previous relationship and as she said she wanted just a casual thing at the start, she may be too scared to suggest anything more serious because it is going so well the way it is at the minute...but u need to know where u stand so ask her..be honest!!!! :)


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