When does a Relationship become "official" as such?

LegacyUser

Hi folks,

Just need some opinions here!

Met a girl almost 5 weeks ago and we instantly hit it off, we get on great and have spoken for hours every day since.

Im 21 and this is the first girl I've ever felt a "proper" connection with and that there is definitely a relationship to be had. (so for anyone who doesn't think they'll ever meet a girl, don't lose hope, it happens very unexpected) She feels the same and we agreed that we feel like we've known each other years rather than weeks.

Anyway, she lives in a different county and we have been apart for about 3 weeks due to her heading home for christmas etc.

I did pay one surprise visit to her for an occasion which she was delighted with and we have kissed and slept together (nothing sexual).

Since my surprise visit the connection is stronger and both my parents and her parents (and all our friends) know the story between us.

Question is, we haven't made anything "official", as in im not sure whether to call her my girlfriend or what... :P


She will be back to my county tomorrow so we'll most likely head out at some point early this week and I'm wondering if it would be smart to bring it up in person, and ask where we stand in that department?

i could have asked her numerous times over text but feel its something to ask in person.

It "feels" fairly official but would be nice to know for definite....


Any advice much appreciated!

Miss Fluff

Saying it to her in person would be best. She sounds equally keen so I'm sure she will be delighted to call herself your girlfriend Good luck.

Elmidena

Ugh "official".... that's something we have American tv to "thank for" -.-

But away from my pet peeve, there is no right answer as every two people put together have different dynamics, but it sounds like you've been a right sweetheart romancing her and as such wouldn't have anything to worry about. I wouldn't be surprised if we got a thread opening up about your partner wondering how to say it to you! It seems things are going great so just slip it in conversation under a joke if that helps, like if she wants to order something and you say "that's grounds for breaking up!" or something like that, her reaction would be clear I'd imagine

Beruthiel

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I'm wondering if it would be smart to bring it up in person, and ask where we stand in that department?

Just tell her that you think she's great and you'd like her to be your exclusive g/f.
She'll be delighted.

mano79

Just come straight out and tell her how much you like her etc and ask her to be bf/gf. Shel b delighted

Good luck and enjoy each other

squonk

As above and next you'll be wondering when is a good time to become 'Facebook Official'

Gah - Facebook and American TV shows have a lot to answer for. "It's not official until it's on Facebook". Gah.

If you are together like you say and neither of you are seeing anybody else, then I guess it's assumed that it's a relationship? Probably the next step would be to just ask for clarification, if it is what you want.

LegacyUser

OP here again,


Thanks for all the input.


Dont personally like the word "official" myself but was the best way I could describe it :P


Anyway, I asked my lady this evening would she be my girlfriend?

I asked her when we were on a beach with a big moon in the sky and the mood was perfect.


I got a yes


Thanks again!