Girl Problems..

LegacyUser

I'll try to keep this simple.

Met a girl through some friends back in october, we got along well. Then some of our friends start telling me shes clearly into me, so I started flirting, she flirts back, all casual and everything at first. I've been taking a bit of a break from girls as I'm not very comfortable with one night stands and I wanted a break anyway after breaking up with my ex about a year ago. But this girl is really nice, I started to feel things for her so I decided to give it a go. After a while of this we end up cuddling and stuff when we're alone, but nothing serious happens. I started to realise I really like her, and things just seem to fit. Eventually (on a night out I should mention as it may or may not be relevant) I try to make a move (kinda, I'm very shy when it comes to this kind of thing and it may not have been obvious) The next day when i see her, she's clearly not in a good mood. Her friend asks her if she made a move on this other guy who was flirting with her, and in response she gave me an annoyed look and said something along the lines of ''no but I should have.'' Things get back to normal a couple of days after this, texting like normal and stuff.

The next night we're out, I get told by her friend she likes me a lot but she's scared it won't work out, and I should just go for it. So I make a move, get with her, stay at her place, and she tells me the next day she likes me a lot.
I was away for a while after this, and I decide not to text her because I don't want to seem too needy. I text her about a week afterwards, we're getting along fine but none of what happens between us is mentioned. A few day's after this, I ask her where we stand and she said she only saw me as a friend, that she'd like things to work out but she isn't attracted to me. I was a bit confused, we talked about it a little, and that was that. I was down for a bit over this, but didn't make it obvious to her. The only problem is, next time we saw each other, we got along even better than before, and she started flirting with me again. I said to myself I was going to ignore it, but (again on a night out :P ) I tried it on with her. Again, I was a little half assed about it in hindsight. We ended up having a good talk then, she told me this time the reason was that she wasn't over her ex, and denied telling her friend that she liked me a lot.

So again, that was fine if a little confusing. But she didn't step down with the flirting, she started making really obvious signs. I decided to not try anything, but I'd just flirt back, which went down fine. A while after this we were alone together, and she said something (which I won't repeat here for fear of being identified) which really made me think she wanted me to make a move, but I left it, thinking the same was going to happen again. We were both staying at a mutual friend's house that night and she seemed really down, I asked her if she was ok, she said she didn't wanna talk about it, so, of course I left it. We were just talking normally, she made some comments about guys playing games, I stupidly blurted out something like 'I don't do that', it got a bit awkward and it was late so I went to bed. The next day she was great with me, seemed in a good mood, and spending a lot of time with me. Since then (last week) she text me first twice in one day, but any time since then It's been me initiating all conversation.

So, what it boils down to is I'm clueless with girls, since I'm only a year out of a relationship I was in for my late teens and early twenties, and I really can't tell if this girl likes me and just doesn't really know what to do (like our friends tell me), or doesn't like me and is just a bit flirty or being nice (like I think). I realise I'm probably going to have to just ask her either way, but some opinions would be nice

Sorry for the long post, and thanks in advance for any replies

silly

She seems like a right head wreck alright.

She has told you she is not attracted to you. So for that reason I would just let it be.

I think maybe she loves the attention from you, likes to be liked, so when you back off she flirts, when you flirt back she backs off.

Time to just let her go I'd say... She will wreck your head till no end.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the reply

Yeah, that's pretty much what I think, it's just the getting different ideas from her good friends thats throwing me off a bit.

I will say though, she doesn't back off when I flirt. It's more when I make a move she backs off, unless i really make the move, if that makes sense?

I have partly let it go, I'm not sitting around waiting or anything like that. It's more just I'd hate to throw away something good if there's any kind of chance, you know?