Not sure what to make of it.....

LegacyUser

Long time poster but going anon. for this one :P

So I recently hooked up with this guy I know, we weren't very close but had good time for each other. It was very straightforward, he told me he fancied me and I told him the same. After we slept together for the first time, I was under the impression it'd be a one night thing and he'd just get dressed and leave. Which I was cool with. But he stayed the night and we talked loads and had some more eh..fun...

We spent New Years together with a few other friends.

And then again we spent another night together, hanging out, having amazing sex and just chatting and laughing.

We get on really well, he takes alot of interest in my life and asks about it and is happy to talk about his. Telling me alot of personal things without being asked or prompted.

He brought up the subject of FWB and I was like ok. It's not something I have done before so I am not very familiar with how it works but I figure it is what it says on the tin right? Where I am getting confused is that we both said in passing that we're not looking for anything serious, just some fun. He mentioned again when we talked about it, that he isn't sure what he wants but he's not really looking for anything serious.

Is it me or is the fact that he hangs out all night, is very affectionate before and after sex and tells me some of his deepest thoughts and hang ups saying something other than I just want to be friends?

Now it's early days and to be honest labels are not my strong suite and before it was brought up I was happy to just let things happen, whatever that may be. Am I looking way too much into this?

Thanks

fits

If he is saying fwb, I would take him at his word, and walk away if I wanted more than that. Sorry

LegacyUser

See I'm ok with FWB....

I am just confused that he says that but then how he behaves is more like what I have experienced in the very very early stages of a relationship. See as I have never done FWB I don't know if this is normal or not. I assumed it would be a case of wham, bam, thank you mam and leave. Have I got it wrong or is it just a situation that's different for everyone?

fits

alllfunandgamestill wrote: »

See I'm ok with FWB....

I am just confused that he says that but then how he behaves is more like what I have experienced in the very very early stages of a relationship. See as I have never done FWB I don't know if this is normal or not. I assumed it would be a case of wham, bam, thank you mam and leave. Have I got it wrong or is it just a situation that's different for everyone?

Are you really? truthfully? If so why are you analysing it so much?

If he asked you to go out with him would you say yes? If the answer to that question is yes, walk away now. That would be my advice anyway. But then I'm not a fan of FWB. More hassle than its worth if you ask me.

Starokan

There is no indication at all that he is looking for anything other than a fwb situation. He is clearly able to engage in this type of relationship without feelings going any deeper. Not everyone would be like this, there is a really good chance that you will develop feelings for him and end up getting hurt.

Fair dues to him for being so honest, a lot of guys would just string you along and then suddenly no contact . Have a think about it, if you can see yourself getting hurt then tell him its a relationship scenario for you or nothing

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice

I guess I am just looking too much into it, I was more conscious of him telling me he wanted to be FWB cos I originally said I wasn't looking for anything, but wasn't 100% ok with it himself.

We get on really as friends and I think that's all it is. Lack of experience in a FWB situation has me all a fluster so gradually getting the hang of things.

We have already discussed it and it has been agreed that if feelings like that start to come it to it we walk away.

And yeh fairs do's to him, great to be dealing with someone equally as honest.


Thanks again