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  • 04-01-2012 2:19am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    i hooked up with this girl a couple of time in first term of college, i liked her and i heard she like me but since we only became a thing coming up the the Christmas holidays so i never text her because i wouldn't have been able to keep up a texting conversation until mid january when college re-starts

    instead however i write to her on facebook about once a week just to keep in some sort of contact. and even though we have long conversations which are fun because we tend to sneer each other quite a bit. i'm becoming a bit unsure whether she still likes me or not...

    i always tend to write to her first and i kind of feel now that if i didnt write to her she wont write to me.. i never leave x's or anything because i'm just not into that

    the thing is she is a very nice girl who if i wrote to her she will always write back and if i leave her x's she will reply with x's even if she didnt want to.

    i know i'm probably thinking too much into this but this has always been an issue in any relationship iv had with anyone...


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    sunflower27 wrote: »
    How far is she from you? Why don't you suggest meeting her if you really like her?

    Nah i don't think i could do that, even if she did live anywhere close to me. i just wouldnt have the confidence or experience to know what to do.


  • #3
    squonk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,990 ✭✭✭squonk


    OP, I don't know what you want from here really. You aren't bothered to text her ove Christmas (it's not an enternity) and frankly the odd exchange on FB hardly means anything. Heck, I've friends who'll reply with an x also if I add the same on one of my messages.

    Frankly you come across as a headwrecker in that you hooked up with this girl, go for ages without texting bar the odd bit of contact on FB and won't go our of your way to travel to see her which, if it was important enough, you'd do.

    I'm not panning you really but you either like this girl or you don't and, if you do, get on with it. You've already done the hard part by hooking up so there's something there. Keep it going. Anyway, what's the deal with texting once you're back at college and in closer proximity to the girl? Go out on a date or something at that point. Don't bother with the texting! You're not 7! Are you prepared for her to get tired of all this pussyfotting around and just decide she's had enough and meet somebody else who will keep in contact, take her out and generally try to have a relationship with her? I'm quite shy myself so I know where you're coming from but speaking from experience, you have to sometimes strike while the iron is hot.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    squonk wrote: »
    OP, I don't know what you want from here really. You aren't bothered to text her ove Christmas (it's not an enternity) and frankly the odd exchange on FB hardly means anything. Heck, I've friends who'll reply with an x also if I add the same on one of my messages.

    Frankly you come across as a headwrecker in that you hooked up with this girl, go for ages without texting bar the odd bit of contact on FB and won't go our of your way to travel to see her which, if it was important enough, you'd do.

    I'm not panning you really but you either like this girl or you don't and, if you do, get on with it. You've already done the hard part by hooking up so there's something there. Keep it going. Anyway, what's the deal with texting once you're back at college and in closer proximity to the girl? Go out on a date or something at that point. Don't bother with the texting! You're not 7! Are you prepared for her to get tired of all this pussyfotting around and just decide she's had enough and meet somebody else who will keep in contact, take her out and generally try to have a relationship with her? I'm quite shy myself so I know where you're coming from but speaking from experience, you have to sometimes strike while the iron is hot.

    See this is exactly what i mean!

    i just dont have a head for relationships and intimate stuff, i dont know why it probably a confidence/ self-esteem issue or the fact i was so shy amongst strangers growing up or something i don't know. Ill try to get a bit more focused about this when i get back to college so. i don't want to be the person who try's to hard and freaks her out by being to clingy or the opposite of not contacting enough and turning her off, but i also dont know which i am so its not pussyfooting on purpose I'm just too unsure or un-confidence about what to do and end up doing nothing

    like i haven't a clue about dating! I wouldn't know how or what or where to ask her or how to react or how she would react. All i know about dating comes from tv so it doesn't stand for much. I know nobody is a real expert when it comes to relationships but I am just clueless and I dont know where I missed out on this.


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