Getting out of invitations?

wilkie2006

Right, I need a bit of advice...

I've just been invited to go on holidays by my girlfriend's friend and her boyfriend (my girlfriend's invited too... it's not one of those holidays). The other couple are very nice and all that but I don't particularly want to spend a week away with them.

Ordinarily, I'd just pretend to already have plans but the trip's not for another 8 months. Thanks to so much notice, whatever excuse I give is hardly going to be very plausible... or is it? What can I say?

Aoifey!

A wedding maybe?

wilkie2006

Aoifey! wrote: »

A wedding maybe?

Hmm, that could work. Would it look fishy if there were no pics or mentions of it on my Facebook page though?

Chuck Stone

Do you drink?

Just get smashed and block them out.

Bodhisopha

Dump your girlfriend?

DjFlin

Say you can't afford it.
Or, invite them camping or something, and act like a royal b*llox. After a couple of days with you, they'll realise that they don't want to spend a week with you.

Revolution9

Easy; you gotta go return some video tapes.

MyKeyG

Just say no, it's a wonderful word our Lord gave us for when we don't want cake!

Seriously though I really don't understand what people have against the truth. It doesn't have to be brutal. You don't have to say you're averse to spending time away with them exclusively but just that foursome holidays aren't really your thing. If something doesn't float your boat then so be it.

jd007

Have sex with your girlfriends friend.

amacachi

I'm 6 foot 2, 20 stone and bald in my early 20s, I have no problem getting out of invitations. Usually I would rate my empathy as above-par but I can't on this occasion.

Azureus

Got out of that exact invitation by saying I was broke and couldn't (it was semi true in fairness). It does kinda mean you cant go on holiday yourselves for another few months after they do though which is kinda annoying. Saying your broke while uploading facebook pics of you in the Maldives doesnt really work.

livinsane

No matter how nice the people, I always regret going on holidays with my partner and another couple. It is not a good combination. Too many dynamics within the group.

Just say that ye prefer to holiday alone. Quality time and all that.

Maybe suggest that the four of ye go for weekend/night away in some city in Ireland instead?

hondasam

wilkie2006 wrote: »

Right, I need a bit of advice...

I've just been invited to go on holidays by my girlfriend's friend and her boyfriend (my girlfriend's invited too... it's not one of those holidays). The other couple are very nice and all that but I don't particularly want to spend a week away with them.

Ordinarily, I'd just pretend to already have plans but the trip's not for another 8 months. Thanks to so much notice, whatever excuse I give is hardly going to be very plausible... or is it? What can I say?

you could just tell the truth, say no you don't fancy it or go and have a good time.

Fozzydog3

amacachi wrote: »

I'm 6 foot 2, 20 stone and bald in my early 20s, I have no problem getting out of invitations. Usually I would rate my empathy as above-par but I can't on this occasion.

with GSOH ? N/S

hairyslug

Tell them you already have a holiday booked, if your girlfriend wants to go, tell the other couple its a surprise for her, then break up with her and you dont need to go on holiday with your ex and you can go by yourself

listermint

Why not just go? It could be the best holiday ever?


I dont get why people just turn down experiences 'just because' seems like a bit of a cop out.

Also can you not discuss this with your girlfriend? If you cant discuss your reasons for not wanting to go on a holiday with her then emm sorry mate its not really going anywhere.....

just say no thanks

amacca

Azureus wrote: »

Saying your broke while uploading facebook pics of you in the Maldives doesnt really work.

perhaps it wouldn't work for what the OP had in mind but it would be an effective strategy if one wanted to achieve other things

Oranage2

"Passport please"

You: "oh sh!t"


Mahahahahaha

bnt

I was going to recommend the "can't afford it" excuse too - very plausible these days. But that won't work if they're offering to pay for it. If that's the case, then just go. If you turn down a free holiday somewhere nice, you're a muppet.

Dravokivich

I don't like foreigners, especially the types you come across when abroad. :mad:

Toby Take a Bow

amacachi wrote: »

I'm 6 foot 2, 20 stone and bald in my early 20s, I have no problem getting out of invitations. Usually I would rate my empathy as above-par but I can't on this occasion.

Why does being tall, young (ish) and bald have to do with getting out of invitations? Would you be expecting the person to fight you into submission?

smash

wilkie2006 wrote: »

Ordinarily, I'd just pretend to already have plans but the trip's not for another 8 months. Thanks to so much notice, whatever excuse I give is hardly going to be very plausible... or is it? What can I say?

Just start acting like a total cúnt.

SAHMOM

Just be honest(ish)...Tell them you would rather have a romantic hol with your gf and can't afford 2 hols this year ...Say thanks for the invite

Peetrik

"Holiday? Yeah sure... oh wait its no going to be within 100 meters of a playground or a school is it? I'm supposed to stay away from playgrounds and schools..."

the groutch

"The truth will set you free"

Dotrel

Toby Take a Bow wrote: »

Why does being tall, young (ish) and bald have to do with getting out of invitations? Would you be expecting the person to fight you into submission?

I think he means it makes him appear intimidating, but I just read it as him being a fat slob who never gets invited to anything.

Peetrik

Dotrel wrote: »

I think he means it makes him appear intimidating, but I just read it as him being a fat slob who never gets invited to anything.

haha I read the same, overweight with early hair loss. I mentally added an 'earthy' body oder to complete the package

Zebra3

bluewolf wrote: »

just say no thanks

Yeah, just grow a pair and say "no thanks".

Maybe they don't actually want you to go and were just being polite by inviting you. :pac:

amacachi

Fozzydog3 wrote: »

with GSOH ? N/S

WLTM non-similar.

amacachi

Toby Take a Bow wrote: »

Why does being tall, young (ish) and bald have to do with getting out of invitations? Would you be expecting the person to fight you into submission?

Is that not how propositions are generally made?

wilkie2006

Thanks for all the good ideas. I reckon that the excuse that we can't afford 2 summer trips away is a good one (and true)

I think I need to give a little bit more information:

- It's not a free holiday. I'm completely expected to pay for myself. Whatever about the cost, I'd need to take the time out of my work holidays, which I'm not really keen to do.
- My girlfriend's friend can be a bit of a wagon when she doesn't get what she wants and isn't someone who it's easy to say no to. I'm not going to get hassled if we don't go but my girlfriend will
- It's not a some exotic holiday; it's a B and B somewhere in the ar£e-end of the country.
- The other couple want to take their 5 year old daughter too :eek:
- If I say I'm doing X on the dates, the other couple might very well offer to delay the holiday until the following week

Thanks again for all the ideas.

Cee-Jay-Cee

wilkie2006 wrote: »

Thanks for all the good ideas. I reckon that the excuse that we can't afford 2 summer trips away is a good one (and true)

I think I need to give a little bit more information:

- It's not a free holiday. I'm completely expected to pay for myself. Whatever about the cost, I'd need to take the time out of my work holidays, which I'm not really keen to do.
- My girlfriend's friend can be a bit of a wagon when she doesn't get what she wants and isn't someone who it's easy to say no to. I'm not going to get hassled if we don't go but my girlfriend will
- It's not a some exotic holiday; it's a B and B somewhere in the ar£e-end of the country.
- The other couple want to take their 5 year old daughter too :eek:
- If I say I'm doing X on the dates, the other couple might very well offer to delay the holiday until the following week

Thanks again for all the ideas.

They want to take their 5 year old!!! That would mean you are tied to the childs routine for the holiday which would be a nightmare!

Also what age are your friends, i thought only 65+ year olds stayed in B&B's??

I wouldnt even have to ask how to get out of it, it would be a clear and simple NO FÚCKING WAY from the outset.

Tell them you have already planned a holiday for you and your girlfirend and holidays are limited during the summer as everyone has to get their fair share of time of and hope that even though she's a wagon, she's able to take a hint!!

cml387

1. Tell them that they must find out the time of local masses before you can go.

2.Suggest maybe the "room numbers might get mixed up one night nudge nudge wink wink"

3.If it's during a full moon,tell them "you're not like normal boys"

holystungun9

OP, just say that you will be in the flowers on those dates.

wilkie2006

CJC999 wrote: »

Also what age are your friends, i thought only 65+ year olds stayed in B&B's??

I wouldnt even have to ask how to get out of it, it would be a clear and simple NO FÚCKING WAY from the outset.

Haha! Cheers

They're about 30