Why is he acting like this?

LegacyUser

broke up wit a fella a couple months ago. only going out a short time, few months.

broke up as it was goin nowhere but nothin bad happened. it was his idea and he stressed he wanted to be friends. any time i've seen him since hes kind of moody. he says hello but more out of duty than interest. sent him a text on xmas to say merry xmas and got ignored. this was several months after we broke up wit no crazy behaviour on my part. think he has me blocked on fb too.

i don't get it as i've done nothin wrong and it was his idea to be friends. its makin me feel ****e. any insight?

greenprincess

Sorry to say it, but he just said that to try and make the break up easier on him! Just forget about him and try to move on.
Best of luck

Katgurl

He doesn't want to be friends he just didn't want to be your boyfriend.

You don't need a friend who doesn't value you.

Don't take it personally and forget about him.

finfinfin

Katgurl wrote: »

He doesn't want to be friends he just didn't want to be your boyfriend.

You don't need a friend who doesn't value you.

Don't take it personally and forget about him.

bang on.this dude is more of a not nice person than you thought.don't be worried about it.

Firetrap

It doesn't matter what he said at the time. Maybe he said he wanted to be friends in order to soften the blow. People can talk all sorts of nonsense and say the right things in order to get themselves out of a sticky situation.

What's much more telling here is this guy's behaviour since the break-up. He doesn't sound like he ever intended for you to remain friends, quite honestly. His behaviour since then just reinforces that.

I doubt you did anything wrong. He has just decided for reasons known only to himself to ignore you as much as possible. It's rude and all that but it's life.

metamorphosis

Firetrap wrote: »

It doesn't matter what he said at the time. Maybe he said he wanted to be friends in order to soften the blow. People can talk all sorts of nonsense and say the right things in order to get themselves out of a sticky situation.

What's much more telling here is this guy's behaviour since the break-up. He doesn't sound like he ever intended for you to remain friends, quite honestly. His behaviour since then just reinforces that.

I doubt you did anything wrong. He has just decided for reasons known only to himself to ignore you as much as possible. It's rude and all that but it's life.

This. Was in a sort of similar situation. Unfortunately, in these situations, both parties may never get the conclusion they want and there are sometimes 2 very different viewpoints to the same situation.

If he initiated the break-up, and has not been keen since on been friends, which is usually weird for some people after a break up, then let it go and move on, let him go. The friends thing was said to soften the blow, if he wanted top be friends, the effort would have been made.

LegacyUser

i get what you guys are saying, that he never wanted to be friends. but he made such a song and dance about doin that?

i haven't been hanging round waitin for him to take me back or anythin cause in fairness the split was mutual he was just the first to say it.

it just seems so unnecessary and rude. i'm over him in a romantic way but i can't help but wonder whats wrong wit me that he doesnt want to be friends. and to block me on fb? its not like i've been harrassing him.

its so unnecessary. but i guess i'll try forget him. rude boy!

metamorphosis

It might be good to de-personalize it for yourself so to speak.

The problem about not wanting to be friends with you is most probably something to do with him, rather than you or something about you in any way.

pickarooney

Without knowing anything else I would presume he has a new girlfriend and blocked you on facebook to prevent a confrontation, but that's just a shot in the dark.

mood

Some people just are not comfortable or simple don't want to be friends with an ex. It's no big deal. I assume he just said it to seem like mister nice guy at the time or to make it easier.

WindSock

Maybe it is his way of getting over the relationship? He probably thinks that in order to move on he must not have anything to do with you and cut all contact. Perhaps the breakup hit him harder than you thought. Or perhaps he is a douchebag. Or maybe both?