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How do I help my brother?

  • 02-01-2012 8:47pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi all, (sorry for the long post in advance)

    Long story short, I am looking to help out my brother. He dropped out of school in 5th year due to problems in our household. That was nearly three years ago, and he is now 20. The outcome of the household problems were that my mam left the house and moved in with another man.

    To go into things in further detail, our father is an emotional man, and has a caring, loving disposition. Our mother is a dominant, somewhat stubborn woman with narcissistic tendancies.

    I received counselling from the university I was in and was on anti-anxiety medication for a while. I am thankfully over the worst and able to live normally again. My brother, however has internalised everything, and is doing NOTHING. He lies around the house all day unless its to go and smoke weed with 'friends' of his.

    I say 'friends' because he drifts between groups of people (none of whom are 'bad') looking for the parties/drink/ and the craic. Nobody would believe that he is a selfish so-and-so to live with.

    He gives no respect to my mother/father/ or myself. He expects his clothes washed, dinner cooked, bills in the house paid, and he does nothing - in fact he still gives cheek. He is a fundamentally good person I believe, but he is majorly frustrated by life. He has delusions of grandeur about acting, or getting spotted to get into the media. However, he will not even follow these dreams, he spends all of his money on weed/drink.

    I fear a leopard never changes its spots, but is there anyway I can get him to see the light? And to put some work in for once in his life and even try a course?

    I care for him but his attitude is starting to grate on me at this stage, and I fear we will fall out if he doesn't show respect for anyone soon.

    Thanks for all replies in advance.


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