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anorexia/bulimia -- help needed (therapist request)

  • 30-12-2011 11:43pm
    #1
    sholvsca
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    my girlfriend/fiance is dying of anorexia/bulimia. we are just two months out of hospital where she was admitted because her potassium was less than 2mg and she nearly had a heart attack. i don't know what to do anymore. I looked online but all I found was BodyWhys and she hates them because her best friend died under thier care or some such. I know that she is lying to me because ive heard her being sick. but I am so alone that i would rather ignore it than do anything because all the HSE will do is lock her up and give her an NG tube to force feed her. I need help. I don't care if she never gains weight, but she is the size of a ten yr old at the age of 25 and she thinks she is fat and she won't stop cleaning the place and planning my meals....i can't handle it and I need help. can anyone recommend a therapist that WONT weigh her? she is obviously underweight and that is not the problem!


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  • #2
    Sully
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    Mod Note

    Post split from an old thread in Kilkenny County Forum. Perhaps the good folks in the Personal Issues forum might be able to help the OP out here, if possible?

    Thanks! :)


  • #3
    neuro-praxis
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    Please contact the Marino Therapy Centre in Dublin asap. http://marinotherapycentre.com/ They can change everything for your gf, if she is willing. Good luck.

    PS - They do NOT weigh patients, I promise you.


  • #4
    MysticalSoul
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    sholvsca wrote: »
    I looked online but all I found was BodyWhys and she hates them because her best friend died under thier care or some such.

    Bodywhys have support groups and can give you names of therapists, gp's etc. They are not a treatment centre, so no one could have died under their care as they do not provide treatment. I would encourage you to get some support for yourself too through this, as it is hard to see someone you care about suffer.

    In order to recover, she has to want it for herself though.


  • #5
    whiteandlight
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    You say the weight is not the problem, can you pin down what is? I ask because I have had close contact with a girl with anorexia/bulliemia and exactly the same OCD tedancies as you describe where the root problem was severe depression not the eating disorder at all. Pieta house are great if you suspect it. Also cognitive behaviour therapy sessions have worked wonders for her. She will need to want to recover herself, not all the time-she will have relapses- but she needs to at least realise that something is wrong if she is to be helped.

    You also need counselling yourself to cope with this. There's no way you should be dealing with it on your own


  • #6
    LegacyUser
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    Another suggestion, mainly just for you to understand the illness and to understand that your gf is not going against your wishes or taking lightly what she is doing to everybody around her, she just is powerless to it right now. Not forever though :)

    anyways... try reading brave girl eating - Harriet Brown. It's a book written by a mothers point of view as she watches her daughter suffer from anorexia, and how as a family they helped her recover. She has a lot of literature and facts about anorexia and it's really helpful for the outsider IMO. If you can understand, your more empowered to help :)

    I'm terribly sorry to hear about your gf, and I hope she gets well again soon


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