Having feelings for a good friend

LegacyUser

I have been friends with a guy I met about two years ago on an online dating site.
We were seeing each other at the time when we first met but it worked out that feelings were not there and it wasnt going to turn into a relationship. I was newly single myself anyway and at the time I definitely wasnt in the place to be in a relationship which was what suited me. At the time (two years ago) he was the one who said it first that he didnt think it would turn into anything sexual/intimate and I myself agreed with this.

We have obviously remained friends since and do meet up alot for dinner or coffee all that stuff. He is the type of person I feel I could tell anything too. Hes so caring and kind and he just makes me laugh and I can be myself around him. I really care about him as a person and friend.

Over the past while I have really started to have feelings for him beyond what you should just have for a normal friend. I dont know if its out of loneliness or the fact that to me he is just an amazing guy and so much fun to be around. We just get on well.

I really dont know what to do. I am afraid that he doesnt feel the same and I am most likely hurting myself in the long run meeting up with him when we do.

He was going out with a girl for a while which was when I started to realise that I was having feelings for him. It was tough at the time to see him with someone. Now thats over and hes in the getting over that process I still feel the same.

Do I continue being friends and not say anything and hide my feelings or tell him and risk losing his friendship out of awkwardness?

Has anyone ever been in this kind of situation before and what would you do?

LegacyUser

I recently told a guy that Im friends with that I like him and he has literally run for the hills (and hidden in them).
I dont regret telling him though. For me it was the right thing to do and off my chest.

A0

Sounds a nice story - relationship... My point of view is one should always says what she/he thinks-feels. In your situation, it'll be hard to stay in the friendship zone anyway.

You are both single, in this context male-female friendship is hard to work out. One or the other will have feelings at some stage (and you already have ), so I'd let him know.

Whatever you decide to do, it'll result whether in you always feeling awkward and willing to say what you think-feel or, in the worse case, not having him as friend. Knowing myself, if I was in this position with a woman I like, I'd tell her as there's no way I have a friendly relationship with someone I like.

MsAllybear

Ah OP, i feel ya! I met a guy about year and half ago and we ended up having to spend alot of time each other on meeting.. after this we tried to meet up but i had feelings for him, we were good friends and i was afriad to tell him but at same time, I knew because of how good we are with each other, it wouldnt do much damage if it wasn't returned.
and it wasn't.
i told him by text stupidly enough and he assumed i drunk but told him i honest. he did lie back for 2 weeks not ignoring me but if I wanted to meet, it was avoided.
but then after that we got on best as ever and I'd call him my best friend now, the feelings have since gone.

anyhow, my suggestion is Tell tell tell!!
he may not have felt spark originally but maybe now and sure if not, u let your feelings be known. no point keeping them in!
Go for it!