Female perspective really needed!!

an_laochra

Hi I could do with other people’s perspective (preferably females) on this subject please. I couple of months ago I met this girl and we hit it off from the word go. It wasn’t long before we started going out and everything was great. She was amazing!! After a couple of months people began to gossip about us and it wasn’t long before it but a strain on our relationship. To tell you the truth it wasn’t what she needed at the time because her dad was very ill with cancer so she had enough going on in her life besides listening to people talk nonsense and gossip. Her dad passed away and we fell out. (It would be good to add that I too experienced a number of bereavements so I wasn’t the best either). To tell you the truth it was a bitter pill to swallow because it wasn’t the best of times for this to occur and I wanted to be there to support her.

We had a few heated exchanges between one another and it put a greater wedge between us. I regretted this at the time because it wasn’t appropriate. Not long after the death of her father, I heard she was dating somebody else. I was annoyed about this and each time we spoke she would bring up his name. At one stage I reacted and told her that I didn’t need to know what she didn't care what she did with him or anybody else, it just wasn’t my business. She reacted angrily to this and we decided that we wouldn't have anything to do with each other. (however we did agree that we would have a professional relationship, because we’re involved production together, and it wouldn't have been fair to put it in jeopardy for other members involved.) Soon after I began to date a new girl but I just wasn’t feeling the connection with her.

A couple of weeks after the ending the relationship she and I were in constant communication, on a professional level, because we had to organise a weekend away out of the country for a group of people, including us. To tell you the truth I was dreading it because I did not know how we would fair out with one another especially when we’re away from home. However the trip went great and both my she and I got on really well with one another. It was like a fresh start for us. We never left each others sides and you could see that the connection that we once had was resurrecting. We spent so much time together on our own that the problems that we had back at home didn't even matter. By the end of the night we shared a kissed and we spent the night together. After that I realized that i wanted to be with her.

When we returned home I broke up with the new girl that I was seeing. Since then things have been great between the first girl and i we’ve became much closer and more open with one another and up for a laugh. The other night I met her and we had a good chat, she opened up to me and told me that when she returned home from the trip she too had ended it with him too. She thanked me for looking out for her and minding her while we were away. It was the first time we spoke about the weekend since we came home. She said it was the break she needed and that it made her realize what she wanted. We spoke for hours in her place. She then asked me a few times to stay the night but I declined, although I do like her and usually i would have but this time I didn't take the chance. I think i needed more reassurance. Before I left she walked me to the door and she held my hand and kissed me, I smiled and looked her in the eyes and I kissed her back, it was a nice moment!! She said thanks for everything and for being there for her. We left it at that. I was fine until that moment and i'm tending not to over-analyse the situation. What do you think about the situation and What should I do?

Thanks

wildefalcon

I'd suggest that you use paragraphs, it's difficult to read the entire outpouring! Most people will give up or not bother to read your post.

Then I'd invite her out for a quiet meal, and see how thing go from there.

Wibbs

Not suited to the Ladies Lounge. You should get more answers here anyway.

Katgurl

Ask her out on an official date. Tell her you like her and you'd like to start seeing her properly.