Trans and Sexuality

L.Jenkins

Over the past year or two, I've become comfortable with myself a little more, getting to grip with my own gender identity. What I've found is, my own sexuality has become alittle fluid over that time.

Well I do still find myself attracted to females, but over time I've noticed that from a female perspective, I do think that I could potentially become somewhat friendly with a male. As a male, I never found that inclination possible. It does not feel like a good fit, but as a female, I do think it's possible.

I don't seem to be attracted to males on a looks or sexual basis, but more on personality basis and so on. Anyone else feel over the course of time, that their own sexuality or comfort levels with the same gender or opposite gender has changed. I would consider myself bisexual, I do think it's beginning to sway alittle as things progress for me in my own mind. Additional thoughts anyone?

azezil

FYI this is not my personal opinion but I can see how that kind of statement could be interpreted to mean you were never confortable with your homosexuality so you became a woman to fulfill your desire to be with men.

L.Jenkins

It could be mis-interpreted in that way. I know of some instances in which a persons sexuality changes when they transition. It's not that I'm uncomfortable with males, but only in a way a female would be.

deirdre_dub

I had a similar experience. It most certainly had nothing to do with "being uncomfortable with my homosexuality" - it had to do with, well, how could I possibly have understood my sexual orientation when I didn't understand what my gender was?!

you were never confortable with your homosexuality so you became a woman to fulfill your desire to be with men.

That makes as much sense as someone who became a homosexual because they were uncomfortable with their gender identity.

stephen_n

I would be of the opinion that to a large degree gender and attraction are separate issues but then again attraction is a vastly complicated issue. I would imagine that once you begin transitioning in a medical sense that the chemical changes would effect the brain enough to impact on physiological attraction. ITMA maybe in your case it is just the fluidity that comes with maturing and as you have become more comfortable with accepting your gender you have become more willing to accept the fluid nature of your sexuality. I was well into my 30's before I could even countenance attraction to men as there were many strong inhibiting factors in my self acceptance.

Freiheit

I remember in the distant past watching a Transsexual regreter and s/he had male to female sexual reassignment surgery because s/he was uncomfortable with homosexuality as a man. This was however in America's bible belt and very unlikely to happen here.

Gays are routinely forced to have sex changes or else execution in Iran,in order to make a homosexual act straight.

deirdre_dub

Somehow I think that in western societies at least, it is far more likely that a trans person will "become gay" in an effort to avoid transphobia (internalised or otherwise), than that a gay person will actually go through transition in order to avoid homophobia, especially considering that straight trans people (which we are talking about here) are subject to homophobia anyway.

Shakti

One could say that cisgender people can explore, define and own their sexuality for themselves and have it positively afirmed and accepted for the most part in 2012 Ireland, I dont see why a trans person's need to do the same should be interpreted as being anything other than that.
I think its natural, what can any of us do but follow our instincts and hopefully find a little love along the way.