Making friends

LegacyUser

I started a course back in september. I had to move counties for the course. The issue is i am finding it hard to make friends or i mean, make friends and go out and have fun.

I made friends on the course but the only interaction with them is when i am in college. I am in my late twenties which isn't an issue as most people on the course are in their twenties and a couple of them are older, and even the older ones made friends and goes out. Which is fine if you like drink.

I made an effort to go out with them at the start of the year, but its all about drinking. Go out to pubs and drink and get drunk. Its the same thing and its all they ever do and waking up the next day hungover, it just isn't worth it.

Im not in college to drink, i am there to learn. But i dont do much after college. I probably should study. But there is so much study you can do. But its the only thing i do. If i get bored, watch tv. Thats my day, college, study, tv, sleep. The weekend is much the same.

How do i get out more to meet people in the evenings and during the weekends?

Downlinz

If you're in 1st year then drinking all the time is a pretty normal occurrence for students then. It was like that for me and the very same people matured into having much different interests a few years later.

R.D. aka MR.D

Would you not head out with them until they get to that drunken repeating themselves point?

I was a big drinker in college but there were 2 different people who never drank and they would always come out for a short while and then leave when we got unbearable. We never thought less of them.

lace

Going out and drinking is a very common social activity for college groups so it's something that probably won't change in the near future.

You could try joining clubs and societies in your college. Although many clubs and socs have nights out they will also have early evening activities like meetings and training etc. Try joining a charity in the college - you'll be making friends and making a difference to others too! You could spend your evenings getting involved in mentoring children or doing soup runs.

As the above poster has suggested - why not join your classmates on nights out but simply not drink? There are a few people on my course who don't drink but still come on nights out and socialize! Maybe just give it a try, you might even have some fun!