Do u feel sad all of the time...

feelingblue

Firstly I know I am posting this to AH and not some please give me a tissue forum but I trust in u guys to give ur opinion honestly without saying ah bless go talk to someone..

I have been on boards for a long time and set this username up to hide my virtual identity. On other threads under this name I have been accused of trolling. I am no troll just too shy to reveal my secrets to fellow boardies who I feel I have gotten to know. All of what I have said on them is true.

Ok here goes. I feel sad all of the time. In work. At home. On my own. With company. Everyone is copping on to it which makes me worse. I am not going to bother telling you about how popular I am and how great the people are around me blah blah.

Everyday is a struggle, I ache for peace. A nights sleep. A worry free minute.

This is my story:

I was brought up in a "normal" household. Volatile siblings, a mother that drank too much, a father that worked unsocial hours but a big home and lots of love.

Somewhere along the way everyone grew up and became well rounded sensible adults, my Dad got a 9-5 job, my siblings got married, my Mum stopped drinking and I met a guy.

Four years ago after I thought all was ok things changed. Seven years in a relationship and happy out I was hit hard.My partner walked out the door on a Tuesday for work and never came back. He had moved every item he owned out from underneath my nose and I never noticed.

He left me for a girl from work and I actually have come to terms with that but everyday I cry when I wake up because I miss him so very much.

Since that day I have been able to function but I am still heartbroken to the point that I am still physically sick every morning. I have lost all ambitions and never sleep. I am off work for another week which makes me think even MORE.

I want my life back!! I want the person I used to be because I miss her and so does everyone else.

b.o.m.d.a.s.

Go to Berlin for a few months

senorwipesalot

Chin up FFS its christmas.Get drunk/laid/stoned.
Happy days.

MyKeyG

I think you have sunk into a profound depression. It may not necessarily be directly linked to your breakup but that may have been the catalyst towards your tendency to depression. Have you spoken to your doctor? He may be able to prescribe you something to give you a lift. It won't take away the pain of your breakup but it will put you in a better place to deal with it.

Captain Darling

If you give someone a tissue in this forum, they more then likely will **** into it.

galwayrush

Talking openly about it is a good start.:)

MungBean

Nothing will help really, just have to try get on with things as best as you can and then after a few weeks/months things will brighten up some.

Aint no quick fix for a broken heart.

feelingblue

b.o.m.d.a.s. wrote: »

Go to Berlin for a few months

You are sound:eek:

senorwipesalot

Captain Darling wrote: »

If you give someone a tissue in this forum, they more then likely will **** into it.

Gets lube

Immaculate Pasta

Atari Jaguar, blast him with piss, the recession, single mothers, Catholicism, pics or GTFO

Erm not sure what to say in serious threads

Dunny

senorwipesalot wrote: »

Chin up FFS its christmas.Get drunk/laid/stoned.
Happy days.

Nope

b.o.m.d.a.s.

feelingblue wrote: »

You are sound:eek:

you are sound too:)

The Snipe

Go to someone and talk to it, be it your friends or your doctor or the likes.

And we are always here if you want to vent anything out, such like that! Remember there is always someone there to listen!

Evem just look at DeV's 'Lets laugh at People with Depression' thread.

Also, try and get yourself a hobby to keep yourself entertained, and don't be afraid to try new things to keep you from being blue, (Try Reiki and other forms of spiritual healing etc. although a lot of people don't believe in them, I have personally found that it has helped me feel a good bit better in the past!)

And, if you ever do need to talk.. I'm always just a PM away.. I'm on here every day

MungBean

Dunny! wrote: »

Nope

Yep, few days of it left yet. 12 days long it is.

b.o.m.d.a.s.

MungBean wrote: »

Yep, few days of it left yet. 12 days long it is.

I'm dreaming of a white christmas

PK2008

I got sad once, but then I just stopped being sad and started being awesome instead

LETHAL LADY

It's always darkest before the dawn, my favourite saying. Don't be sad, if you cannot talk to anybody in your family try going to your GP as a first step.

Chuck Stone

You're grieving a double-loss. Your former partner and the person you used to be.

You won't go back to the person you were because you aren't that person anymore.

Speak to someone you trust and look after yourself.

MungBean

b.o.m.d.a.s. wrote: »

I'm dreaming of a white christmas

You should have mentioned it to Santy when he was around, he may have had something in his bag for ya.

previous user

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in the balls that is :pac:

westendgirlie

I've been where you are OP and eventually you will realise that it wasn't your fault he left. He was a c*nt to start off with! And you will cringe at yourself for going out with him in the first place

Katgurl

Listen you need to pull yourself the f&&k together. He wasn't your life, you just built it around him.

Things were not as rosy as they seemed, you were clearly oblivious and he was obviously a deviously cowardly f&&k - how on earth did you not notice he'd moved his stuff out?

**** him and **** his slapper from work.

Plan some stuff for next year. Can you save for first six months and then go travelling? Throw yourself into training for something, the marathon or something equaly challenging, a rock hard body will cheer you up immensely.

Seriously, we all plummet sometimes but you can't give into it.

Tell yourself this is a new year, give yourself a shake and get out there and achieve something, he's only a bloke, not worth putting brakes on your life over.

Btw, I've been there too and I know it's ****.

Happy New Year to you, this one will be better.

feelingblue

Chuck Stone wrote: »

You're grieving a double-loss. Your former partner and the person you used to be.

You won't go back to the person you were because you aren't that person anymore.

Speak to someone you trust and look after yourself.

Thank you, I never thought of that before.....I am grieving the loss of who I was

b.o.m.d.a.s.

MungBean wrote: »

You should have mentioned it to Santy when he was around, he may have had something in his bag for ya.

if i was asking Santy for anything it would be a house on a bit of land somewhere outside Berlin, with no neighbours, and a lake, and a boat, and a fifty grand,

TheUsual

Was just on Jedward's website, they ran off with your boyfriend.

Sorry.

Leeg17

Feelingblue, I'm going to lock this but first let me say;

Please talk to someone about your feelings and situation, a family member, friend, GP or the Samaritans.

Best of luck.